How do you date, what's your style ?

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How do you date, what's your style ?
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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:48pm


I mean, say you are starting to date again. and what ever way you end up meeting potential dating partners, do you take it slow...how long until you become lovers, and if you do...what if you also know of other women you'd like to date as well...perhaps you would become sexually active with them as well ??

I believe they call it Serial dating to serial monogamy. I am starting to date again. Have not gone on one yet,but I currently have 4 women who are interested in getting to know me better. Whoo hoo! And it has been soooooooo looooong since I made love with a woman...I know it's gonna be tough to keep my hormones in check. But I am gonna give it the ole' College try ! (grin)

But I am 47 and do not want to get tied down at the moment and as long as I am open and honest and Safe, I wonder if I can date more than one woman at a time ? I have before, but they were all brief coffee dates, I went to bed with one and that was it. It was good 'practice" for getting back "out there".

Anyway, I am babbling...and grinning like Chesire cat...and my stomach is filled with all kinds of fluttery butterflies and I have not even gone out with any of these women yet !

good thing I got that patch for my Hot flashes or I'd be in big trouble !

Brandy (Designergrl47)


"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 8:21am

This is my own personal dating style, no need for a response.

After the long drawn out search is over, and that means no interference from anyone else, and while getting to know the woman that I find attractive. We would go places (and this is just me)go to a bar, or to the movies, maybe out to dinner.

I may go over to her house, or she might come to my apartment. I usually let her tell me when she's ready to become intimate. Usually, I would do all of the courting gestures, ie flowers, maybe some chocolate (that is if she's on a diet, is allergic or just had some dental work done), or whatever she might like to have. In a way, I do want to get into a relationship, but in a way I don't. I've gotten to the point of once bitten (and this is just for me)three time shy.

Sometimes I can tell if a woman is attracted to me, and if I think that's the case, then I get away from her as quickly as I can. But if she continues to her interest, then I will politely ask her, "What's up?" For me, that's a way to find out her intentions (funny how the tables turn, huh?). A guy's got to be careful these days. I'm not a rich guy, I have to watch out for my heart and my sanity.

But good luck on your reemergence to the dating scene.

Sebastian

 


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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 9:34am

Hi Brandy,

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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 4:50pm
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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 8:44am
Hi Brandy,
I must say, I have dated many women at a time before. I just let them know I am just dating and not ready to make a commitment. The women I dated were ok with it. But remember it works both ways so, no drama if you see them out with someone else one night!
It did work for me and I finally found the one I wanted to settle down with for awhile. But she was not the one so back out I went. I met sheila and we dated for six months before we made love and we have been together for 10 years now.
Laurie

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 9:44am

Nice to know it can work. I have my first date today at noon with one of these women. I'm a little nervous, but not as much as I thought I'd be.We had missed each other yesterday phone wise, and I did not realize until last night that she had called Me early yesterday until last night. No email response all day and then the yukky stuff that seems to go with doing this started for me again. Where is she ? Why hasn't she called..emailed ...looking at the phone, not being able to concentrate on other things.I felt like my validation depended upon whether she called ...or something like that. Ick!

I told myself that I was going to do something really nice for myself today...to get Back to my Self, ya know ? Then last night when I was staring to wind down in bed, I was fixing to program this particular woman's phone numbers in my cell phone when it vibrated and rang so loudly I dropped it !LOL. It was a voice mail message from her, asking me if I wanted to go out to lunch today.

So I called her back and we made a date. I Am looking forward to it...but I just want to keep my cool ya know ? This next month I will be busy taking business classes to help me grow my business along with joining the Y, I hope to be pretty busy in my own personal life (w/my Self) so I won't be doing a lot of sitting by the phone, checking emails every hour..lol...this part sucks.

I now have 5 women who want to go out with me.Sheesh. Life's tough. (giggle)
I'll keep yall posted.

Brandy

p.s. not sure I could wait 6 months to make love tho'. Hmmmm.

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 9:58am
Yes, please keep us posted as to how this goes. I hope it works out well for you as it did for me. I was like you, going to school actually finishing my degree that I had let go for a long time. I waited 6 months with my current partner because I was just coming out of a relationship and did not want the baggage etc., to interfere. We just took it very slow. Thankfully she waited.
Good luck with your lunch date! Just have fun!
Laurie

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 10:34am

Well, phooey, I just posted to you and think I lost it. I hope I don't post twice. Anyway, I don't really have any advice for you except to say if I were you I'd take it slow and not make any commitments at this point. I think it's fine to hang out with several women at a time but like Caly would not include sex right away.


Hope you have a great lunch today!


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