Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...

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Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 7:25am

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Well I got lots of great feedback about discussing some of the day to day issues we face as lesbians so I am looking forward to this weekly thread.


And, since we had

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 8:37am

This is a nice topic along with up coming topics.

When a woman comes into my life this will be an interesting thing to discuss with her.

For those of you that don't know me, please just read this. I have no issues of holding my partner's hand, giving her a hug or kissing her on the lips, in public, or in broad daylight.

For example, after walking her to her car, or even getting out of her car, after a date. I have no issues of giving her a kiss, and I could careless about who sees it. If I really wanted to be bold about it, I would caress her face and lightly tweak her nose. Or, I would lightly touch her hair or caress her arm. But if I wanted to give her a passionate kiss, I would definately whisper in her ear and go to a more private place and enjoy such a kiss.

Thanks,

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 10:07am
We see other women who hold hands etc at the Mall etc. We do it in the car or sometimes a light touch in public.
Once we were dared to kiss in a public dance club with all our straight friends and we did and got a round of cheers. So, nothing bad has happened around here for it.
Laurie

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 10:30am

We held hands in public in Vermont when I visited, but we have to be more careful here because I'm not as out as Caly is, and until my girls are older I kind of feel like I need to keep it that way. I don't want to jeopardize any of my girls' friendships, although I wouldn't deny that Caly and I are partners if anyone asked.


I so wish PDAs were accepted and not scoffed at. We'd be holding hands all the time out in public if that were the case. But, we sneak in touches here and there or hold hands under the table sometimes when we're at restaurants.


And, one way that we show affection when we're out is to blow kisses to each other. It's become our thing. One of the nice things about the social opportunities for us here, like our dances, is that we can be totally out and affectionate with each other at those events. Some couples take it way too far (like giving each other lap dances and groping each other), but overall it's a nice, relaxed atmosphere for us tamer couples. ;-)


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:07pm

I don't have a problem with seeing other people hold hands. I don't mind if anyone see me holding a lady's hand, but I usually am not a PDA person. *grin* I'm not shy about showing my affections, well maybe a little *l*; PDA is just not in my makeup either to use as a sign of defiance or just something that comes without thinking. I usually reserved my affections till a private time/alone together time.

With that said, *l* of course, at times I do hold hands in public on a date because I'm on a date! During the winter seasons, it's more difficult to hold hands because I just want to leave it in my coat's pockets to keep it warm. But that does not mean I would push her away from my side just because she held on to my arm to walk closer with me. Sometime I do see a questioning look directed at me but usually I'm oblivious of them.
When I do get "a look", I usually look back and sometime smile, sometime give a challenging look, depends on the individual. I also think another reason PDA is not in my makeup because it's not practice in my culture. I blame it on my environment. Yeah, that's it, it's the environment! *L* So it it nature or nurture? *L*

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:11pm
Why would anyone dare you to kiss your sweetheart? Didn't they know you're together or did this happen early in your relationship? I'm also suspicious when someone dared me to kiss a woman. They never asked me to do that to a guy, eventhough it was be more of a dare to asked me that! *L*
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:16pm

T,

are your girls' friends in the dark about your relationship with T2? I'm kind of confused because you and Caly didn't sound like your relationship is in the closet. maybe it's a southern way to not talk about it in public to be polite? Just asking. *smile*

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:27pm
We were playing truth or dare while we were out that night. We were in a straight club. Guess they thought we would not do it. It was all straight people and friends. They thought we never showed affection around them because we were to afraid of how they would react. (They were right.) Until that night.The owner brought shots to the table after that too.
Laurie

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:32pm

We aren't as out of the closet as maybe we have indicated here. I dunno. It's not because of a southern politeness thing. I really could care less how people in general would feel if I talked about it. I've lived here for almost 13 years, so I've got some deep roots at my workplace and in my girls' schools. I think most of my coworkers would be cool with it (one knows already, and he's wonderful), but we still don't have the anti-discrimination policy for sexual orientation, so I'm not totally comfortable with being out.


As far as my girls go, I will give my DD2's kindergarten teacher a heads up next year. I also have talked to the guidance counselor about it. DD1 (9.5 years old) is starting to be a lot more open with her friends about us. She refers to us as girlfriends and appears to talk about it very comfortably. So far no one has said anything bad about it, but I still like to be careful because there are a lot of bigots in this area. DD1's best friend's mom does know, though, and she's totally cool with it. We're so lucky in that regard. And when DD2 starts making close friends whom she hangs out with a lot, I'll probably be more open with them too. I've kind of followed DD1's lead and timing on all of this. I wanted her to get comfortable with it in her own time and way, and she's done remarkably well. I'm really proud of how she's handled and accepted it all.


Sorry for the novel! I'm glad you asked, because it really is an important issue.


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Registered: 12-15-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 4:38pm

Rose and I have come far in the PDA department, but we are still guarded.

Jules

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:06pm

Hey guy! Glad you like the subject.


Nice to know you are so comfortable being out, though my guess is because you are so gallant *smile that if your gf was not as comfortable with being out, it would be ok with you?

*Hugs


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