Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...

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Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 7:25am

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Well I got lots of great feedback about discussing some of the day to day issues we face as lesbians so I am looking forward to this weekly thread.


And, since we had

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:08pm

Thats pretty cool Laurie, especially about the kiss and your friends.

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:12pm

I agree with you Baby, I certainly wouldnt want to do anything that would make it harder for the girls. But I dont ever want them to think we are ashamed of ourselves either, its a fine line that will get easier as they get older, like with Jordan.


Besides sometimes its even more fun to 'sneak it in' by brushing up against you in public for example. I love to look around afterwards and see if anyone noticed Hehehe

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:21pm

Hey Eastie!


I agree that I don't ever want to hold TiNG's hand (or any PDA) to Try and make others feel uncomfortable or 'act out' so to speak.

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:40pm

Whats nice about that Laurie, is now you can be totally relaxed around your friends, which is a Great thing.


I know TiNG is not totally comfortable with it, but I try to sometimes be overtly affectionate infront of her parents and my brother and SIL, mostly to help them be comfortable with our relationship. I know they all accept it but I want it to be totally natural too and I think that takes time with most people who arent around it all the time. If that makes sense

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:48pm

On my side of things, we are totally out and open with the girls at home of course, and as T said, with most of their friends when they come to our house.

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:53pm

Jules,


You and Rose sound EXACTLY like TiNG and I.

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:55pm

What an interesting question, and I guess here there is a bit of a culture difference.

I have no problems with holding my partner's hand (when I have one, which I don't at the moment) in public, no matter where we are. I will give a quick kiss, or caress, but am not really big on tonsil-hockey in public regardless of gender!

I suppose it's a bit different for me here because we do have anti-discrimination laws that cover sexual orientation (real and perceived) since 2004. Having said that, I have a close friend who is a teacher, and he is still VERY careful about letting people know or being out because he's so close to retirement, if he lost his job he'd be in real difficulties. And I don't actually work for anyone else, so I'm ok anyway! Although I need to keep my clients happy! But I just don't generally discuss my sex life with them, and they don't really discuss theirs with me! LOL

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 6:11pm


Hey Caly,

Well, if I did have a girlfriend, I would expect that she's comfortable in being out and comfortable in being seen with me. Considering that most guys would be more uncomfortable with kissing or showing any kinds of affection in public, and at the risk of being made fun of, in front of his friends, you know, getting that "Wooooooo" effect? lol!

I would be very comfortable with receiving a kiss from my potential girlfriend in public. Now if she wanted to hold hands with me, I'd be comfortable with that also. But I would be blushing up a storm, not to mention smiling from ear to ear.

Thanks,

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 6:30pm

Hey there,


Great one to start with. We love to hold hands and get the usual reactions, people will watch us or give us curious stares... We were out to eat one night and holding hands under the table and another couple saw us and they started talking about us and looking at us.. and of course we got defiant lol... and Deb started rubbing my leg where they could see and we just looked over and smiled at them... normally we try not to be too obvious especially if young children are where they can see us, but if we are in a store or something like that we will... we always hold hands in the car. If we are around our home town we are a little more reserved since we are so well known here and even though everyone knows we try not to advertise it too much.. does that make sense. I am not totally out to all of my work because of my xh working there and I don't want to make things bad with him. My son sees us as a couple but he doesn't quite understand the concept of us being a couple. I have not had that conversation with him because of my xh, I don't think he is ready (my xh) for me to flat out admit it. I would love for us to be able to display our affection for each other without the negative consequences... I know that we are making progress and I am hopeful that things will change and we can be ourselves without even having to give it another thought. Until then we pick the places that we feel comfortable with being affectionate and the others we are discreet with our affection, a caress on the arm, standing close, a wink.. etc.. we find a way to communicate it....


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Brenda Kay

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Fri, 03-02-2007 - 12:28am
Well... ~S~ is actually more at ease about holding hands

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