Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 7:25am

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Well I got lots of great feedback about discussing some of the day to day issues we face as lesbians so I am looking forward to this weekly thread.


And, since we had

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 10:01am
Thanks ting.
We just do not feel comfortable holding hands walking through the Mall etc. You never know what kind of nut you will run into.
Laurie

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 10:04am
I agree with you there Caly. We are pretty free in front of friends and family. It is some strangers we are not sure about.
But Sheila is out at work and we never deny are relationship to anyone ever.
Laurie

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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:00pm
*L* Great story.
Bravo for the owner too! :-)
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:06pm

I like your approach.
Nice and easy.
I always thought kids in our lives don't get enough input on how to behaved as much as they should since their lives are affected as well.

Don't worry about a novel. Yours have a beginning, middle and an ending! A very good novel to read. *grin* I on the other hand goes meandering along...*L*

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:14pm

Just putting my nose in where it doesn't belong. *grin*

Just a question, if you feel such sadness in this town, are you sure you want to work in it till you retired? I don't know how old you are but I can't imagine working in a place that will not make you happy for a long time. Is it possible to work for another school district that will make you more comfortable instead of the other way around? Like you said, your ability as a school teacher isn't based on your sexuality so there must be other places looking for a good teacher.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:18pm
what you said is good examples of why holding hands in public is no big deal for people living in big cities and coming from certain culture that doesn't think twice about females holdings hands. But if two guys holds hands in public, that's a big deal in the western culture.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:23pm
You mean your XH don't know you came out?
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Registered: 11-16-2005
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:42pm

"Tonsil-hockey"...LOL...Love that!


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Registered: 12-15-2004
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 5:56pm

Oh, believe me, I am looking for a teaching job in

Jules

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Registered: 08-17-2006
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 5:59pm

Wow what a turnout on the first question!!

Cindy and I always hold hands and show PDA's around family and friends, but when it comes to Cindy's job, she keeps it under wraps. Where she works, it would be very bad for her if she was "out". I mean, some of her co-workers probably suspect that she's gay, but never ask her. I know that a couple of people that she works with knows that she's gay and one of them doesn't mind. The other says that she doesn't mind, but spread it all over the department that she used to work in and she got a lot of flack from it. Now that she's in a different area where she works, she doesn't want the same thing to happen.
She really likes to job too much to risk coming out at work. I work at Wal-Mart and there are several gay people that work there. Some are totally out and some aren't. I am kind of in between right now cause I've only been there for 10 months. Some girls know that I am gay, some suspect and some doesn't know. If they were to come up to me and ask, I would tell them, but I don't offer any information. People are pretty easy going where I work, and even the managers are pretty ok with the gay community there.

Being out in the public, we sometimes just rub against each other occasionally. When we go out to restaurants, people would be stupid not to know that we are gay the way Cindy and I look at each other. But the only PDA's outside of family and friends is mainly just holding hands in the car or an occasional brush up.

I wish that things were different though cause I would love to be totally out no matter where we go. I am just afraid.

Hugs
Annie

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