Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...

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Thursday Thoughts... Holding Hands...
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 7:25am

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Well I got lots of great feedback about discussing some of the day to day issues we face as lesbians so I am looking forward to this weekly thread.


And, since we had

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 7:48pm

Lou is so funny. When I moved here, I remember her telling me to quit messing with her in the car. One of her students was in the car next to us! That's relaxed and almost disappeared with her new job at the uni.


I find Liverpool to be full of affectionate women. Walking hand in hand with a friend isn't uncommon. Our tendency is to link arms. It's like a cuddle and quite effective against the wind! Quite quickly though, her bitty legs and my long ones set us walking against eachother, nearly knocking heads!


We get some inquiring stares occasionally and there are some places I wouldn't want to draw attention for ANY reason.. (unfamilar places, dark etc) so yes, we're careful. I don't think I've ever seen a negative reaction to any of our affection, reserved as it is... but some kid once yelled 'dyke' at us just walking together in the city.


We're careful around her neices and nephews, but they can't have helped noticing we're awfully fond of eachother and our flat only has one bed. LOL! Her family has been wonderful, feels like they have completely accepted me and us.


Loubie and I were very careful in the beginning of our relationship, in front of my kids.

 

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Registered: 10-17-2006
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 9:03pm

We do sometimes, yes, but for the most part now

 

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 9:30pm

Hi Eastrogue,


I guess the way to explain it is I am out to my friends and family and my employees but he and I have never discussed so to speak, it is kinda like an unspoken agreement he doesn't ask and I don't offer, I think it makes it easier on him to deal with it and continue to be friends with me. Especially since we work together, there have been plenty of rumours around work that I am but he doesn't speak about them.. Does that make sense.. I don't hide it and he refers to us as a couple to other people in his own way. I am very sure that he knew about a relationship that I had with another married woman before we seperated. He and her husband knew that we were together and would leave us alone on purpose but I think that he did this in hopes that I would get it out of my system but it didn't exactly work out that way.

Brenda Kay

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 11:53am

Truthfully ? Unless I am in Redneck, USA...I just Do it..and don't pay any attention to anyone's reaction. But then I live in a very progressive and tolerant city (thank god !)...Seattle.And I've been doing a lot of hand holding lately. (giggle)

Brandy

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 3:18pm

Hi, Brenda Kay.

Thanks for a little more info. I'm a little less fuzzy now. *grin*
I find it interesting he want to be in this state of mind while some people around him either know the truth or talked about it behind his back or around him. I wonder if he is trying to cope with more than one issue. We all have our own way of coping, I guessed.

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Sun, 03-04-2007 - 11:03am

Thats Great Brandy!


Sometimes I wish we could all just grab the bull by the horns and 'just do it' especially when its something that shouldnt be

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Sun, 03-04-2007 - 8:33pm

Hey Eastie,


I know what you mean, I am not sure why he has handled it this way but it is what is working for him... I have been afraid to push the issue with him due to the fact that I have an 11 year old son and I don't want him to use anything against me. Thanks for asking.


Brenda

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 10:28am

Caly and I ARE so happy! We have come a very long way, and while life's never perfect, it's wonderful to have the love of your life by your side as you deal with the good and bad in life.


I hope you are just as happy as we are. :-)


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Registered: 11-16-2005
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 10:30am

It's so interesting to get perspectives from all over the world, Nony! And you can relate on so many levels.


I love the idea of locking arms!


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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 6:04pm
Yes, ting-a-ling,
We are very happy and always feel fortunate to have found each other. It is good to find your soulmate.
Laurie

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