Thursday Thoughts... Kids w/ 2 Moms.....

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Thursday Thoughts... Kids w/ 2 Moms.....
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Thu, 03-08-2007 - 7:33am

Morning Everyone!


Wow, Last week's thread was awesome! It took off like a rocket, so thanks everyone for your input.

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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 6:22pm

Thanks, Halo. I admire how you've handled this with your children. I had a good talk with DD1 and only one of her friends had teased her. Another friend had told several other people, and she asked her friend not to tell anyone else. So, I think all is ok for now, but I'll be monitoring the situation closely.


DD1 has really sweet friends, most of whom are very well-mannered. There's always one or two in the bunch, though, who can be pretty insensitive.


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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 7:34pm

Thanks Ting, I think it's pretty amazing how the children of today are so advanced compared to when we grew up. My son's sophomore year I went to the orientation program and he was standing beside his buddies handing out flyers. I was shocked when he gave me his, it was for the gay straight alliance. Times really have changed. First, in our days he would have been the laughing stock of the school! Second, his friends cared less about what he was handing out because they all support the alliance. I was so proud of him! Of course, he didn't do it because his mom was gay, he did it because he was head over heels in love with the president of the club. lol She held his heart all through high school. It was sad watching him pine after her since she would only date women.

I do have a problem with gay or straight, couples pushing their sexuality onto their children though. Back in Ohio, there was this lesbian couple who had a four year old and when they went out with her, they would say stuff like "look DD isn't that little girl so cute?" What's with that? I wouldn't say that to my daughter about a little boy or a little girl....Let them grow up to be who they are. It's their God given right to become what he intended them to be, without our push one way or another.

PS. I think you and Caly are doing a great job with your children too! I always have.....

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halo

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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 9:39pm
congratulations Jules! i am very happy to see this.
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 8:42pm

Hey Caly,


I think your approach is a great one and one that I have thought about a lot lately. One thing I ahve noticed is he says that is so gay... that is the saying lately in school.. and actually I saw a special with Katie Couric where she is talking about that very saying... and the next time he refers to one of his

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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 12:08pm


1) Give them weapons, like Linda Hamilton had in a Terminator movie. But than it’s needed in Iraq so that’s out of the question.
2) Give them swords, like Uma Thurman in Kill Bill. But than you would need to get them lots of backpacks for their books. Waste of money to own a cool peanut butter and jelly sandwich cutter that also shred your bags.
3) Get them into karate classes???

I think helping kids deal with bullying is simple but hard work. From the responses, it great to read the kids has support at home. As long as that foundation is solid the next layer is to contact school administrators to make sure bullying is not tolerated for any reasons. (do this before they're preteen?)Talk with the kids to make them understand they must tell you if they are being bullied and reassure them you won’t put them in danger but you will speak with the Principles/counselors to make sure they are safe in school. They need to feel you’re looking after their safety, not adding on the burden. Enroll them in a self-defense class?

I think the way we would help our kids has to do with the child's emotions, the environment they have to navigate (city or townie) and our own experience/memories of how we were treated when we were a pre/teenagers. There’s really no full proof ways to keep them from being hurt. What works for one child might not work for the next kid. Look on the bright side, they will survive…we all did, right? *smile*

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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 12:09pm

Congratulations on the wedding bells ringing! *SMILE*

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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 3:18pm

I think kids need the skills to handle bullying and when it gets to a really serious point, I would definitely involve school administrators. I've always pushed DD to be independent and she can handle herself pretty well. Part of growing up is learning how to deal with conflict. This issue is especially sensitive and tough, though, so the mamabear in me will continue to monitor the situation!


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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 11:54pm

Hi, its me, I really new here, but I really wanted to thank all of you, for all you opinion to raising children as a gay couple.

I have been with my girlfriend for a year now, but we have been friends for a longer period of time. Before her i was with a man, so the topic of children never really came up. But now that Im with her it has been, lets just say a "conversation starter".

I love her very much and I really want to be with her, but I never want to have children and they have a hard time because of who I choose to be with. Since reading your posting I have come to realise that its not so bad as it seems. I love children and I would like to have children with my girlfriend someday, sometimes I just get alittle nervous and than she thinks that I will leave her and it really makes for some hard times.

Once again thank you for all your messages.

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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 7:11am

circlewelcome1.gifHi Sweets!


When I got the idea to start these threads on a weekly basis I hoped that they would be able to help some people along the way.

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