Thursday Thoughts... Gaydar......

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thursday Thoughts... Gaydar......
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 7:13am

Hey Everyone!


I thought we would take the topic in a different direction this week. Some of you don't have kids or partners but we ALL try to connect with each other.

So what about Gaydar?

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Registered: 03-09-2007
Sat, 03-17-2007 - 5:09pm

Ok, I have no gayday. Its not that it doesn't exist or that its not working properly... Its that I don't have one. We have alot of gay people here in toronto. I work at a bank and in my branch alone theres three of us. When me and my girlfriend go out (she has amazing gaydar) I never notice, even sometimes when were in a gay bar, I think that alot of the girls aren't gay... that maybe there there with friends.

Theres this girl that works at a coffee shop across the street from where I work and where I always get coffee, and She used to tell me that I looked good all the time I never thought anything of it... the first time my girlfrind walked in there with me she was like: "Yup, that ones gay". And sure enough two weeks later we saw her and her girlfriend at a gay bar.

But when I do know that girls are gay, I notice certain things about them, the way they stand, the way the hold their beer, the way they sit, how they speak with people. My girlfriend, I notice for example, struts. She doesn't walk like me (whos really girly).

I love to watch people, so I notice things, but I don't get any vibes or feelings about where a person is gay or not.

Till nest time...

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Sat, 03-17-2007 - 7:37pm

Hey Sweets!


Thanks for your input.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:46pm

Your list is interesting. We do need labels to find each other in the crowd, don’t we? *l*
You also make me wonder if your observation is effective if we test it out in the south or northeast or even in LA vs San Diego or Midwest or FL.

As for more lesbians working in non-profits or shelter…I wonder if that is true too. I always thought mostly women (gay & straight) worked in these occupations because they lead by their heart/compassion. They shortchange themselves by not demanding their job be high paying jobs like a guy would do. We don’t teach ourselves to expect high salary and we don’t teach/encourage our daughters/sisters/gfriends to expect being paid comparable with our male colleagues (in every field). That’s our downfall.

What would Robin fall under? Dyke or lesbian? I say she’s a lesbian because she’s confident but my friend said Robin would be a dyke for her with her sport interest and body built. Isn’t that interesting? *l*

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 2:13pm

I wonder from reading all these responses, if we might be giving off some vibes of our own. Do we do it consciously or subconsciously if we know we’re in a safe/friendly environment or do we not know our gaydar is reaching out?

I wonder if we, on this board, could pick each other out in our first meet and greet before introducing ourselves? *grin* For those that already met, do you remember if you were able to picked her with your gaydar before standing before her? *grin*

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 3:38pm

That's a very interesting question about whether or not we could pick each other out. I think we've seen pictures of everyone we've met IRL except for one couple. But they described themselves beforehand so we'd know who to look for!


If I didn't know what they already looked like, however, as good as my gaydar is I think I would have only pegged one or two.


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Registered: 04-23-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 6:23pm

That is a very interesting theory Eastie.

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 1:57pm
I think that there is a "feel" that doubles as gaydar. I always had the feeling about Robin and Swopes. I wonder what people think about me. Deep in closet, with cracks showing through from time to time. Closer now than ever, so that when the door opens people will, and (for those that already know), have said, "No, really? What have you been waiting for?" Of course it's all about the spouse issues right now. Must be a a heat seeking sensor in there somewhere.
BLUE DIA

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