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| Sat, 03-17-2007 - 8:01pm |
I am not sure if it is okay for me to post here, but I am seeking some help.
Throughout my life I have had attraction to some women, as well as some men. I can't say as though either attraction is stronger than the other, but I only considered following my attraction to men as I was taught that was the right thing to do. I am married to a wonderful man and we have children together, but I also find my attraction to women to be coming stronger and stronger. I have talked to my husband about this in a round about way (hypotheticly) and he thinks it is perfectly natural for a woman to be attracted to other women. He even said if I ever met another woman and wanted a "relationship" with her, that he would not consider that cheating. Again, he said he thinks it is natural. He is not one of those men who wants to see it or be involved. He very much believes intimacy is between two people, and any extra causes problems.
Anyhow, I am not looking for a sexual relationship outside of my marriage. What I am looking for is people to talk to that know my feelings and can accept me the way I am. I feel like I can't even tell my best friend because I am afraid she would feel "weird" around me.
I have a few lesbian friends, and I haven't even let on how I feel. To them I am just the super supportive straight conservative chick that fights for gay rights. However, I feel more comfortable around them than anyone else. Like I can more closely identify with them that others. I want to make more lesbian/bi friends so that I feel like I have more in common with them. Is this making sense?
Are there any forums on the net that are active but private where I could talk to others?
Like I said, I do not a relationship. Just recently I was outright hit on by a woman, and she told me she wanted to have sex with me. I was offended. I didn;t even know her. I am not about sex, I am about personal chemistry and attraction. I am about relationships. My feeling that I am bi-sexual has nothing to do with action or sex and everything to do with my feelings deep down inside. It seems to me that too many people use the excuse of being bi to be sexually promiscuous (sp?). I just want to feel comfortable being who I am and not feel like I am some weirdo.
Any advice? Any areas you can direct me?
Feel free to email me through my profile if you don't want to post back here.
Thanks,
Lynn

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Welcome Petoonyah! It's great that you have found a wonderful woman to be with. And it's good that she is understanding of your situation.
Glad to have you here!
Hi Blue Diamond,
Brenda
By the way, how does one "turn gay?!" :)
It's great to find a board to speak to that isn't about all the drama I've found elsewhere. On some of the other boards its a mean place to be, and I know that most lesbians are all about love and friendship, seeking others who understand what/how other women feel. Thanks to all of you who are so supportive to everyone, this is a place of love.
Petoonyah
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