A Big Hello from a New Face

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A Big Hello from a New Face
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 7:06am

Hello All,
I've been a shameless lurker for a couple of weeks now, and I'm really impressed by this board. So I decided to sign up and join in the discussion. A little about me: I'm a nursing student. And as I have recently admitted to myself, I am a lesbian. I'm not 'out' whatsoever, and I think that will take a little more time. I'm glad there is a board like this where I can talk with such supportive people as yourselves while still cloaked somewhat in the anonymity of the Internet. It's been a long journey of the soul to get here, and I am amazed at how free I feel now that I can say, at least to myself, where I fit in sexually.
I've read the postings on 'gaydar' and I wish to put my situation out there to your analysis....any input would be helpful. I have a crush on a classmate who's sexual orientation I don't know. I know she's dated guys in the past and the last one really didn't work out. We've been in the same clinical group for two years and recently have become study and project partners. When I'm in the same room as her, I'm flirting like mad, and I think I'm being terribly obvious. To me, she seems to return these affections. For example, she touches me frequently...little things like putting a guiding hand on the small of my back when we're both heading into a room. Or like our last study session (with our 3rd study partner present) I was lying on the floor researching from the textbook, and she layed her head on my back and snuggled in. Wow! I'd love to take it further, but I'm not sure if her actions are those of an affectionate, platonic friend...or if that's her way of being a terribly obvious flirt. Thank you for getting to know me a little bit, and I hope to speak more with you all.

Cheers! Celia

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 8:29am
Hi Celia,
Welcome to the board! Glad to see you came out of lurkdom.
Your project partner sounds like she is at least noticing your flirting and giving some affection back to you. In what terms I would not know.
Do you think you will talk to her about it or just let it go for now and see how it developes on it's own?
This is a delema and an interesting one. She is obviously not put off by your flirting or she would be distancing herself instead of being so cozy. That is the way I see it.
I hope things work out in your favor. Keep us posted.
Take care and best wishes in nursing school.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Hi Celia! It's great to have you here! Glad you came out of lurkdom and posted. We have another nurse on the board, so hopefully you two can chat.


You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and can read situations well. It's obvious that your project partner feels totally comfortable with you. As Laurie said, she'd probably be distancing herself if she wasn't. It's hard to gauge those situations though. Some girls/women respond to touch naturally. I wouldn't push it...just keep reading her signals.


I'm glad you came out on the other side of your journey figuring out who you really are and want to be. Isn't it a great feeling?! I went through the same thing, and while it was a very difficult, and at times, dark experience, I'm so much happier now.


You're a great addition to the board! Hope you'll continue to post.


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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 1:19pm

Hi, Celia.

I couldn't add anything more to what Laurie and T's posted.
Just want to welcome you to the board. :-)

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 6:27pm

Hi Celia and Welcome!


TiNG and I are Partners as you probably know, and think very much alike hehe so I pretty much echo what she said.

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 9:18pm
Hi Celia and Welcome from me also... I agree with what the others have said.. She is warming up to you.. not pulling away... but us females do respond at times with each other in ways that are... well ...so at home like..... so it could be just she feels comfy with you in that way.... but..it could very well be an attraction and flirtation also.. I would do as the others suggested and ask her out for coffee or whatever she or you both would like... or lunch just as friends and see where it goes.. I am sure eventually if she's feeling what you are... it won't stay hidden long *Smiles.. Good to have you out of lurk-dom and here amongst us..
*Smiles~


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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 7:22am

Thank you for your warm welcome,
I'm happy being my project partner's friend and am in no rush to see it turn into something. I think I'll enjoy the closeness and watch for signs of a deepening relationship. Thank you for your insights and suggestions.

Cheers, Celia

FYI, I think I may just ask her out to coffee

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 2:33pm

Celia,

I have to agree with what the others said. Take it slow and see what developes. My partner and I were friends for over 10 years before we "found" each other. I DONT want you to have to wait that long....LOL.....but you never know what the future may bring!!

BTW....we share the same birthday ( along with my brother- we are 5 years apart)
January 5th - Happy Belated Birthday!

Daronda

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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 6:35pm

Thanks for responding.....and that's neat about our birthdays. Incidentily, I share Jan. 5 with my brother too. It helps that we're twins ;)

Cheers! Celia