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| Thu, 03-22-2007 - 7:41am |
Hey all.
Last week we talked about Gaydar and how you can pick out someone who is gay.
| Thu, 03-22-2007 - 7:41am |
Hey all.
Last week we talked about Gaydar and how you can pick out someone who is gay.
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Well it's kinda long but here it goes. When i was in high school, i told my mother that there was something that i had to tell her. i never gotten around to it due to her reaction when she thought i was gay . So i told my cousin the same thing and she wanted to know what it was but i could never apart my mouth to say "i am bisexual". for a few good months it was on and off that i tried thins with my mother and she still never gotten it. so as a junior in high school i was getting my hair done at my other cousin's friends home. all while im there my other cousin busted out saying "you're gay so what's the problem". I.e. we were talking about gays and bi's, her friend is gay. So im thinking do they already know?
p.s. i still havent told noone...
I haven't really had experience with this since I'm pretty sure most people wouldn't peg me. I do wonder what our neighbors think, though, since we come and go together and there obviously isn't a man living with us. Yesterday, I went out to lunch with my coworkers, and I noticed one of them
Like someone else said, we walk our dogs together and work in our yard together etc.Our neighbors will come talk to us or we go talk to them when we are outside etc. The kids always play near our drive since it is a T in the road and there is alot of room for them to skateboard etc. So the kids are always over talking to us when we are outside and they are very nice neighbor kids.
Also many of the guy neighbors have told us to just call or come get them if we need anything. And they have been there to jump start our car or other things or just to visit when we are outside.
We live in Indianapolis and our neighborhood is very friendly.
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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
To those that don't know me, especially those that have come out of lurkdom, my name is Sebastian, otherwise known as SB. I'm a female to male transexual.
About Gaydar, I don't even have to let my gaydar look for lesbians or gay men, their gaydar goes off when I come around. roflol! When I'm around my best friend, who is straight, I have to turn my gaydar off. (It screams at me), and until she says different that's how it is.
Moving on...
If anyone figures me out, I'm not surprised. I'm kinda hard to miss, either by the way I carry myself, or how I look at a woman and smile. In my situation, because of the outward changes, I know my church family sees and hears a definate difference. Everytime someone tells me either "Uh, that's the ladies room" or "Sir" Or, how a woman approaches me, all I can do is smile :-D Which reminds me, as I was waiting for my commute to Philly, a woman walked by with her carrying case on wheels, caught my eye and smiled at me. (I was minding my business, and listening to Madonna, my usual routine). Well, I smiled back and my eyes twinkled. Then I went back into my spacey look.
When I speak in my deepening voice, I do get a response. It's either acknowledgement, surprise or no response at all. And of course, I do smile. As far as my neighbors are concerned, I go on with my life as though nothing unusual were going on.
The building that I did live in before, well, no once missed a thing I did. As nosey as they were. But when I kissed the young lady that I was dating goodbye, in her car. I always came back in with a big smile on my face. (when I say young lady, I mean she's in her late 30's).
I look at it this way, I'm going to live as I've been living. If my neighbor's lives are that boring and stale that they have to see what I'm doing, then I feel sorry for them.
Thanks, and keep up the good work.
Sebastian
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
Well, I've had a mixture of reactions.
Jules
Hrrrrmmm, intriguing question and quite relevant to some recent experiences. As posted before, I'm not 'out' to anyone save you ladies and myself. However, there seem to be many people in my life who question or just assume that I am a lesbian. A few weeks ago, a fellow classmate turned to me and asked "Have you ever dated guys?" While remaining elusive as to the specifics of my sexuality, I indicated that I had and left it at that. I don't think I changed his mind. He clearly thinks I'm deeply in the closet. He, himself, identifies as a gay man....so maybe his 'gaydar' is working fine :) I had one friend give surprise support out of the blue. She simply said, "If you're gay, that's ok with me."
I'm not comfortable living completely out yet. So for nosey neighbours, classmates, etc. I just diplomatically don't answer their questions and let them think as they will. I still need to figure out where my sexuality fits into my identity. I'm spending a lot of time and energy discovering just what it is to be a part of this community. That said, I don't want my sexuality to be my primary identity. I am still a student, a daughter, a friend, a nurse and a whole lot of other things. Until I know where where lesbian fits in that list, I'm not going to confirm or disconfirm others suspicions.
It's been good to have to put these thoughts into words...
Cheers! Celia
Well, I bought this house with my then girlfriend, so I guess it was fairly obvious! Neighbours have pretty much been fine on THAT front (we've had a fence altercation however, and I'm going to strangle the kids if they continue to kick their ball against my house!).
My funniest moment was probably when I was working for my old company. I wasn't really out at work (none of their business, generally). My client had called us all to a meeting in Milan, and this was the first time I'd met them. We were at the centre first, so watched them walk in, and the first two were ok, then with the third my gaydar pinged-STRONGLY.
Later that evening at dinner, I was sitting across from the object of my gaydar reading. She had the rainbow earring, and was talking about her "partner", but didn't mention a name. Finally, I got brave and asked if her partner was female, and she said oh yes. I said "mine too" and she said "I know". I nearly fell off my chair! NO ONE spots me...I'm so femme, I "pass for straight" and have even been refused entry to gay nightclubs because they didn't think I realised what I was going to!
It was a very surreal moment...my client (and clients were GOD in this company) knew about me, but my own project manager didn't!
Generally, people only realise when I tell them. Super-femme lesbians aren't common in the UK! I haven't had many negatives though (apart from "no you're not" or "oh, that's a shame"-yes, he actually said that!).
Good question tho!
Hugs,
Chris
www.rainbowinspirations.co.uk
http://rainbowinspired.livejournal.com/
Hmmm...these are the times when I might like selective mind-reading ability.
C >^. A .
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