Bi now, lesbian later? (I'm new here)

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Bi now, lesbian later? (I'm new here)
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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:53am

Hello everyone, I'm new here. I was searching online for a forum where I could just talk to someone.. anyone.

I am having a rough time right now. I have come out as being bisexual to mostly everyone in my life. I am okay with that. I know that I have been torn over my sexuality since I can ever remember. However, I still don't feel certain about being bisexual.

I have been dating a guy for almost two years now. I love him dearly. But it seems with every passing day, I feel less and less attracted to ... well.. men. I know that I love him, but at the same time I feel like I'm holding something back when I am commited to him. I can't help but fantisize about being with a woman...

I need help. I am so stressed and depressed over this. I don't know who I am.

Is there any advise out there? Has anyone else gone through something similar?

--Genevieve

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:32pm
I hate the fact that some mean-spirited folks in this land feel the need to throw everyone into some category. Sometimes when someone asks me what my race is, I say either human or American. United we stand, divided we fall. Lets quit trying to classify everyone and just try to love one another!
Sarah
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Registered: 03-25-2007
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:59pm

Bring it on Sarah! Couldn't have said it any better.
I, myself, am such a mutt, that when people or the students ask what my nationality is, I always say American. Now, if you all out there have a particular pride in your family's nation of origin, I say that's wonderful. When I traveled to the Great Britain, though, nobody asked me about my heritage. They just called me Yank.

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 4:08pm
We allow people to try to divide us. We all face the same problems. Those problems effect us all just a little different because of who we are. If we could just address the problems, instead of allowing ourselves to be divided by politicians et al.
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 10:57am

I agree with the previous posters...most of us have gone through something similar.

Spring SiggyBlinkie
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Registered: 10-01-2003
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 2:34pm

Can I just borrow your description, Storm? We sound so similar.


In my case, I have to admit thinking I must be bisexual when I first started seriously questioning my attractions. Looking back, I have to wonder if it wasn't just the smallest of possible steps for me, in

 

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 5:02pm

Storm, this sounds like me except that I am the beginning of the NEW adventure. I have been in my present relationship for many years. You know, it's been somewhat of a release, although it is scary. Wherever I am, I am always looking for someone (not a guy). It is so weird. I'ts definitely not the old me. I am hoping to settle myself down soon.

Right now I would consider myself bisexual, but who knows in the future. Confusing right now.

Hazy Blue, right now.

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 10:24pm

Sure, Nony, for the low, low price of seven blue m & m's, you may use the copyrighted description of me.


*huge grin*


~Storm

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Spring SiggyBlinkie
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 10:26pm

Awww, {{{Blue}}}


You'll be back to your bright blue diamond self soon!

Spring SiggyBlinkie
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Registered: 03-25-2007
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 12:57pm

Thanks, Storm.
"Today is where my book begins and the rest is still unwritten."

That's how I've started living and THAT is how it is going to end.......but all will be written.

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 5:39pm

Ooohhhh...I LOVE that song.

Spring SiggyBlinkie