Status Quo

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Status Quo
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Tue, 04-03-2007 - 10:10am

Hello ladies,

I have a question for you and it doesn't apply to me. Are you the type of person that follows the status quo (The Jones, give into peer pressure(negative)). Or, are you the type of person that stands on their own two feet, and stays the individual that you are, and follow your sense of right and wrong? Or, are you in the middle?

I'll be back later on to give my response.

Thanks ladies,

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 03-17-2006
In reply to: igentleheart
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 2:02pm
I tend to be an individual. But it depends on the topic.
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Registered: 04-23-2006
In reply to: igentleheart
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 7:08pm

Hey SB friend, Great question!


My answer is different now that I am in my 40's and out as a lesbian then it would have been say 10 or 20 years ago.


Now I definitely stand on my own 2 feet and hold true to the person I am.

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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: igentleheart
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 7:53pm

Sebastian, I have pondered this question as I have rambled through my day. Most times I stand on my own two feet. Umpiring will do that for you in an "adapt or die" sort of way. However, I have recently been put in a situation that I thought was appalling, but did not take a stance because I thought it would be detrimental to me, and the men I work with would not have my back. I felt like a total traitor and lower than dog turds. I spoke to a friend about it, and she was of the opinion that sometimes you just have to protect yourself until the situation is right. That made me feel better.

So, you posed the question. What do you think?

BLUE DIA
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In reply to: igentleheart
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 10:37pm

Hi my *Protective Bro..*Smiles~ I most times am my own ways thinking and doing..person..I do have my strong moments when I stand against things that are just not right ya know? Then I also have my moments when I must admit I shy away or coward out.. so to speak.. for well.. I guess reasons that I don't want to rock the boat.... or that I pick the battle I want to participate in...


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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: igentleheart
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 11:37pm


Hello ladies, even thought I'm pretty sure at most of our outspoken sisters will respond to this question. Time will tell.

Since the days of my youth, I've never bowed to peer pressure. For one, my peers were just as confused as me, lol! But I've always had this innate sense of right and wrong. There have been many times in my life that I've stood up for myself. During those times of me standing up for myself, I've always been lonely. I posed this question because I have a good friend, a woman that I once called best friend, seems to feel the need to put our friendship to the side for those that have material things, are successful and are in relationships.

Just to be a part of the crowd, or to bend to peer pressure, just for the sake of being popular and to have everything, is sad.

There's always a bad feeling when you are with people that agree with you all of the time, even though, you know inside of yourself, that you're wrong and that you've hurt someone that has shown you true friendship. It's even sadder when you expose that person's secrets to the crowd, just to make them look ridiculus. But, I will wait for more responses....

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: igentleheart
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:06pm

I've always stood on my own two feet, and I always root for the underdog. However, in the past I've tried to fit in with my dress and how I conducted my life (I had a plan for my life when I was in middle school - get married, have to kids, climb the career ladder - typical suburban heterosexual life). I finally realized it wasn't what I really wanted and decided to do what would make me happiest. That was a huge, huge example of standing on my own two feet.


Anyway, I never really experienced peer pressure, but if I had I would have done the right thing and not given in. I've never been very aggressive, but I do have my limits and will stand up for what's right. I got better at this when I had my kids - parents have to be the best advocates for their kids I believe.


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In reply to: igentleheart
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:43pm

Ting, you've always struck me as an independant woman. No wonder Caly loves you so much. It's always a good thing to know what you want out of life, and go for it, and stand strong.

Thanks,

Hugs,

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: igentleheart
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:46pm

Self-approval is always the best thing to have, isn't it, Caly? Of course, self-approval does come with time and growth.

Thanks for your response.

Hugs,

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: igentleheart
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:49pm

I can agree with some parts of your response. Sometimes survival must come first, and conscience later. But, at least knowing how it feels, after giving in teaches us lessons about ourselves.

Thanks and hugs,

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: igentleheart
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:53pm

Thanks for your response, Cat. I'm also an individualist. Sometimes misunderstood, and sometimes understood. But being faithful to self is most important.

Thanks again,

Hugs,

Sebastian

 


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