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HELP NEEDED! what do i do now?
| Tue, 04-17-2007 - 7:59am |
hi to you all i am new to all this so please bear with me! OK heres my story so far and why i need some help!
I've been with my husband for 10 years we have 4 gorgeous young children, our relationship hasnt been the best over the years, but lately its been at its worst and i do love him but just not in love with him anymore, i have a very close friend that has become my girlfriend it was not intentional, but has happen and i have realised that the way i felt about my husband is nothing compared to all the feelings i have for my girlfriend, i have never felt this way about anyone before we spend alot of time together and always enjoy ourselves she gets on great with my kids they love her, i wouldnt say im confused i know what i want now, but i am just really scared i dont want to hurt the children, i just wanted to hear from someone who may have been in the same situation and maybe would share your experience with me or even some advice, i dont know whether to tell my husband how i feel and then split or just split and give no reason to him either way i think it will be messy!
please comment what you think even if you havent been in this situation,
thank you
looneyspark
I've been with my husband for 10 years we have 4 gorgeous young children, our relationship hasnt been the best over the years, but lately its been at its worst and i do love him but just not in love with him anymore, i have a very close friend that has become my girlfriend it was not intentional, but has happen and i have realised that the way i felt about my husband is nothing compared to all the feelings i have for my girlfriend, i have never felt this way about anyone before we spend alot of time together and always enjoy ourselves she gets on great with my kids they love her, i wouldnt say im confused i know what i want now, but i am just really scared i dont want to hurt the children, i just wanted to hear from someone who may have been in the same situation and maybe would share your experience with me or even some advice, i dont know whether to tell my husband how i feel and then split or just split and give no reason to him either way i think it will be messy!
please comment what you think even if you havent been in this situation,
thank you
looneyspark

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Welcome, paganbeauty! It's great to have you here and to read your perspective. I'm sorry you're not able to be totally open. It's tough when you have children. Hopefully one day you can have a life together with your g/f, free of worry about your children.
Can you try a seperation first and then tell him you want out.
Tell him that you are no longer happy and the relationship is going bad. I would not mention the g/f for now or he will just blame it on that.
Can you live with your g/f for awhile during a seperation?
Would you want to leave him even if there were no g/f? In other words, were you still unhappy before this g/f became a g/f? Also is it fair to hubby and kids to stay married for all the wrong reasons? When you are not happy? Or could you leave and be happy with them all after you left?
Hugs, Laurie
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Welcome, Lezzy! It's great to have you here. Hope you'll tell us more about yourself.
Hi Bre!
You had some great advice and I hope you will join in and post more! Its great to have you here.
*Hugs
thank you
LS xxxx
LS xxxxxxx
Hugs,
Laurie
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