So...Mom's not happy...

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So...Mom's not happy...
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 6:03pm

I'll try to make this the Reader's Digest Condensed version, because I know time is valuable.

Spring SiggyBlinkie
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 9:15pm

I have seen the S & G thing first in relationship to homosexuality and then the second way of immorality. The second makes more sense to me.
I will meet you at the first step of Hell or hold the door open for you, if that is too be. We ALL will be together and know each other by name.

By the way, I learned in one of my grad classes the the Greeks had sex with just about anybody: men with men, women with women, hetero, all together, and it wasn't considered to be evil or an abomination. It was just natural. We come by things pretty puritanical here.

BLUE DIA
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 9:17pm

Storm,

You're welcome! It's not always an easy road to tread in terms of how people react. But, I will tell you something that has made it easier for me. I cannot control how someone else reacts. I can only control myself. I choose to live my life in an open and honest manner because doing otherwise was killing me inside. I was dying a death, my spirit was so broken. So, I came out. That was the greatest gift I have ever given myself. I got 99% support from everyone around me, who had suspected for a long time. The only problem was and still is my Mom. She is furious with me and it's been 3 years now since I came out to her. We barely speak and I have not seen her in this whole time. It's still very painful, but I have no control over her actions and I am not responsible for her actions. What is funny is the support I found in an unexpected area. I have a friend who is VERY religious, her name is Ruth. She is the person I expected would not want to be around me after I came out. Just the opposite has been true. She had told me that seeing Shelley and I and the life we lead has totally changed her perception of gay people. She had never seen a gay couple, so she had all these beliefs based on things she had been taught in the church. Not only is she 100% supportive of Shelley and I she's also become close friends to a lesbian collegue and her partner and adopted children.

I hope things will get better between you and your Mom. Stay strong,

Shannon

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 9:53pm
I agree Blue. For a free society we sure are pretty uptight about things.
People just are so ignorant. They just do not understand us that is the problem, and how can they.
Also, they use the old phrase, "Be fruitfull and multiply." as a sword against us. What that means is to go out and help people become spiritually knowledgable and to come to God spiritually and believe in him. To bring more people in to the fold. To be Spiritually fruitfull. That is the way I see it.
Hugs, Laurie
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:01pm

I never thought of that. I like it! Thanks.

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:43pm
You are very welcome.
Laurie

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 11:54pm

Hi ((((Storm)))) Sorry about the outcome of telling your Mom.. But perhaps in time she will soften to it.. ..I understand your lil fears


 C  >^. A .

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 1:12am

God loves you more than anyone on this planet.

hugs

halo

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 1:44pm
Storm, you lived more than me. I’m your age and never married or have kids. No desired. My mom and grandma have all the desire for me to so I guessed they used up my share. *L* I hope you do find the answers you seek just to find some inner peace. Your religion must be very important to you to suffer through this anguish you’re going through. Laurie and others will posts to give some encouragement with the religion subject and I’ll chime in to give encouragement just because you need it. Don’t give up on your mom. We’ll try to turn that sad smile around for you, even for a little while.
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 5:45pm

Thanks again to all of you.

Spring SiggyBlinkie
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 10:46am
"... I must admit the lines in some posts out here about at least we'll all be together in hell doesn't sit comfortably with me and maybe it was not meant seriously. But I do understand thats how they feel and I respect that.... It just makes me not feel so great ..."


Hey Cat, I feel a bit the same as you on this issue. I'm not religious by any means at all..but I've never understood why a person's god, who is supposed to be all loving and compassionate, would want his people to burn in hell and be tortured for all eternity?!?! Isn't that just completely opposite of what he is supposed to stand for?

(These are my thoughts, I don't want to upset anyone..)



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