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coming out..
| Wed, 05-02-2007 - 12:06pm |
iam a 39 year old woman and lesbian and am still the closet in way..Which means i have to do everything secret cuz, of where i live..Most ppl who know me or see me know what i am and tolerate me cuz i have done anything like, hold my girlfriend's hand in public..I really can't hide who i am..as you look at me you know what i am..Iwas thinking of coming out but i don't know if i should risk it..By coming out i mean going out with my girlfriend and holding hands..what do you all think? Should i risk it..?

You seem to already be out if ppl already know. I would say play it safe for now.
You have to think of your g/f too and her safety. I would not want any trouble from anyone.
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Welcome, twomoods! So glad you posted! Your situation is difficult. Caly (my co-CL and partner) are in the same boat, although she is out to most of her co-workers. I think you need to follow your instincts. We live in TN, and homosexuality is not accepted here for the most part. I have two DDs in school and am very careful about doing
Hi and
It does sound like you are very much like me.
Hey, twomoods. Welcome. I, too, am way in....a few people have found out recently, due to extenuating circumstance. Of course, everybody here knows!! I have worked a long time in my job and made many contacts and relationships that could be harmed by coming out. I am also married, so that is another issue. I do not have a gf presently, but I am holding out hope for the future. You are lucky to be with somebody you love!
Examine your work, social, family, and other contacts. Are you really ready for them to know. If you are, then go for it. Think about the reaction of all those you love around you. Are you ready to accept the repercussions of your actions (both good and bad)? Your friends will stay, others will not. Protect your partner. What will happen with her situation. Is she ready for you to be out and thus possibly outing her?
Good luck and hope to see you back.
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