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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 10:08pm

Hi Ladies,

I have just started checking out this board and I have been surprised to see that there are so many other women out there that are just like me! I am married and have one child. I was actually looking out for a woman to date when I met my to-be-husband. I had no intention of having any type of serious relationship with him and, looking back, am not sure why I was dating him...I already knew that I preferred being with a woman even though I had never had the opportunity to have a formal relationship in that way. Anyway, I was clumsy and got pregnant We (he?) made the decision to be a couple and raise our child together. Three years later, we got married. There was no deep romance involved...I think we did it more for convenience. Now...I am really feeling out of place and every day I think about how it would be if I could be free of this commitment and find that girlfriend that I have always wanted. My husband knows that I am (was?) bisexual, but he has no clue just how much I have lost my attraction to men. At this point, I really believe that I am absolutely gay. I have no idea what to do. So...it is nice to be able to come here and know that I am not alone.

Thanks!!
blues

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Fri, 05-25-2007 - 9:32pm

I am going to like talking to you about the whole civil war thing and reenacting, but I gotta tell you to let the hygiene thing go. You and I are not sleeping together, so it is not an issue. I know about all the deaths related to uncleanliness, etc. God, I would have loved to have served under you. lol

I know that I need to be clean, ahem, I catch the drift, but I think that reenacting does not allow for much interaction on site, and we could make arrangements for another time, Besides, we are both in the same boat.

Sorry, I have just returned from camping with muy seventh graders for a week, am somewhat drunk for the local watering hole and need to get some rack time. Talk to you again in the morning.

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Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 05-28-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 4:30am

Hi,

I just signed onto this site. It was given to me by a friend because she knows that I am feeling very confused about my sexuality. There is a girl that likes me, and I kind of like her, but I have never been with the same sex before. The confusion brings a lot of turmoil and I am hoping that this site will help me a bit.
I read your message and I am thankful that I am not alone in the mixed feelings. I hope I read your message right.

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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 7:27am

Hey, Raven WELCOME!!!

Glad you found us. Your friend has done you a favor. This is a great place and the women here are super supportive. There are a number of us who are trying to figure things out about our sexuality on our life's journey. We are all here to help and give advice and opinions on questions that arise. You have to sort of look at all the options as you are making your decisions.

Just so there is no confusion,I am not digtheblues, she goes by Leaf. I am bluediamondldy and go by Blue.

Hugs and welcome again.

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 8:03am
Raven,
Welcome! You have come to the right place that is for sure. You fit right in here.
I am a lesbian and have been all my life. I knew from an early age that I liked women.
We are very supportive here and I hope that you will jump right in and join in the conversations or start your own.
Just remember to be true to yourself when it comes to this other woman. You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable with.
I hope you can find inner peace with this situation soon.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 2:45pm

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 2:17pm

Welcome, raven_song! Glad you are here! You are definitely not alone, and we're here to offer support, advice, and a great place to hang out.


We're looking forward to getting to know you better!


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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 3:40am
ROLFMAO! Keep drinking it's way okay! lol

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halo

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halo

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 7:41pm

Glad you liked the post. ;)

We just finished our Civil War Day today and I talked about women serving in the war. I told them how I like being on the field, what I had to do to "pass" as a man, how I liked the adventure of the battles rather than sitting on the sidelines. I told them I had to take off my earrings, rings and bracelets. I told them I had to act and talk like a guy. I mentioned that I was a lesbian and that I really liked doing this stuff. Oh, no wait, THAT was my fantasy. I am sure some suspected.....but they always do and I am so good at covering. It was a very good day.

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Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 11-29-2004
Sat, 06-02-2007 - 3:19pm
Your fantasy is great! I'm just like that, I always dream about it yet never do it. However, here in California I'm outing myself when I meet people for the first time. It makes things easier. If they continue to be friendly after I out myself, I feel more comfortable talking and it takes away that very question in their eye's mind. Funny how you can just see it in their looks. It's the first thing I notice when I'm holding my partners hands in public. People don't realize how obvious they are about their looking. Might as well have a TV monitor on their head instead of a brain! lol.........

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halo

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