What the ?????

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Registered: 05-03-2007
What the ?????
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 6:52pm

Okay...by now everybody knows what my situation is. Well, this morning my husband was trying to play around with me and get me to have sex and I was absolutely not game. He was in a really good mood and I felt like I could open up to him today, so I started telling him that the new method of birth control wasn't working (we made a decision that I would go off hormonal birth control to make sure that it wasn't interfering with my libido as mentioned in a previous post) and that whenever I thought of sex, all I could think about was having sex with women. I even admitted to him that though I had the best husband a woman could possibly ask for, I had to make myself wanna have sex with him. I got upset trying to tell him about it. I told him that I felt like a creep. He said, "you're not a creep, you're just a lesbian." He asked me what I was going to do. I said, "I'm not sure yet, what are YOU going to do?" I told him that I'm not a good wife and that he needed someone that would be better for him. He joked about trading me in for a newer, shinier model (I am several years older than him). I said that she didn't have to be newer, but she could be someone that appreciated his manliness. But then he said that he was right where he wanted to be. Huh?????!!!!!! I said, "How can you say that? How could you want to be with a woman that only wants to have sex with other women?" He started saying (joking?) that I could get a girlfriend and that she could just live with us. I said, "No woman is going to want to do that!" He said that he didn't mean to BE with me AND him...just to be with me. He even said that he could move into the guest room, but that he really like the master room better because it has a bathroom. And that then our daughter could have 2 mommies and how funny it would be that the second mommy would not be daddy's new wife, but mommy's new girlfriend *looking up to the ceiling like I must be in the flippin' twilight zone* Anyway...I said, well, don't you want to find a new girlfriend. And he just joked about how between the four of us, maybe we could remember all of the things we were supposed to send to school with our daughter and whatever like that. It's like it was just a joke. But, then he said that he had to get to work and that he hated to leave during the conversation, but that we would talk about it later. So...you know...I was feeling better about the situation. Then, this afternoon, he's talking about future plans and all that for the coming years just like his wife didn't just tell him that she doesn't want to have sex with him because she is gay. I have no clue what just happened here!!!???? Can I scream now? At least it's a baby step in the direction I'm trying to go in, I guess. *sigh*

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Registered: 07-04-2003
Sun, 05-20-2007 - 1:36pm
Hey Blue,
Just stopping in to chat and say hi.
I thought maybe a hetero-girl might be able to offer up some input and other view points. I'll have to bring my party hat next time.


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