How'd it Go, Blue?

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How'd it Go, Blue?
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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 2:20pm

How was the GLBT union caucus?


Did you bow or curtsey or clap?


Did they give you your copy of the Official Lesbian Handbook and promise you a toaster if you recruited others??


Allll right.... seriously, how was your day? Enquiring minds, and all that. LOL!!!


Hope it felt fabulous! ~ Nony


 

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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 3:09pm

Thank you. Since mom asked me when I was in my thirties or early forties if I was gay, I am thinking she will be an ally, as long as she can keep her mouth shut. I want to tell my brothers and sister in my own way, and dh gets to know first before them.

Blue

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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 3:17pm

Thanks, Leaf. I am not sure myself about the NOD as opposed to the wassup nod.

Cute story-I'm standing with one of my friends waiting to get my car from the valet, when this guy comes up and starts talking to us(his gaydar must have been turned on). My gaydar is not only pinging, the decibel level is off the charts. He's a lawyer from NYC who is just pissed that the ATM machine in the hotel cost him an extra three dollars. He's all flamboyant with the hands and posturing. I'm trying to commiserate with him and make decent conversation, when I notice that his fly is down. Now before you get all weird on me out there, I was NOT looking for anything. I couldn't tell him. I just couldn't get it out of my mouth to do that to a perfect stranger who was being so nice.
As he leaves, I turn to my friend and say, "his fly was down." She starts to laugh and say that she didn't think that he was offering us anything. We chuckled.
On the way home, I told her I was gay. It went well.

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 3:19pm

I think she will be fine, Laurie, cause she asked me when I was younger. I just don't want her telling my brs. or sister. She does have secret issues. I think she would be an ally, however.

Blue

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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:26pm
National meeting, how cool!
Did you see the show where Ellen came out. Maybe that is how you are feeling, like everyone knows.
Then again... maybe they outed you. Like I told someone before... my mom outed me to all her friends and our family friends. I don't mind at all since I wanted to be out.
My sister outed me to her/our friends years ago when I was like 19 yrs old.
I really don't care who knows about me, it just makes life easier.
Have you decided if/when you will come out to dh?
Hugs,
Laurie
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:29pm
I would tell mom first then in that case. Just my oppinion.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:36pm

I think they outed me to other gays. I think people talk, but I also think 99% will keep me safe. If not, I can always do the Clinton move....deny, deny, deny lol

I still do care, especially with dh.

Blue

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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:40pm
I understand. And yes, you can deny.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:41pm

Here's the issue. I have spent decades not telling anybody, including myself. So I make this one litte utterance and now I want to tell everybody. I have picked my straight people carefully, and they are all on board. I had said in another thread that it would be at least two and a half years before I tell dh. I am just getting so darn comfortable with myself, that it seems to be snowballing and I just feel ready on one hand, but I am not ready for the fallout on the other. I don't want this to be some big deal, and I know that it will be. Geez, the man is planning our future monetarily and securitywise together, but it's not what I want. I'm happy and terrified all at once.

Hugs

Blue

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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:49pm

Ah Blue, your posts bring back memories of when I first met TiNG here.

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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:51pm
Yeah Blue, that is a sticky situation you are in. I can sure understand wanting to avoid the fallout!
Just take your time and do it when it feels like it is time.
Hugs, Laurie
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