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| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 12:03am |
I just had my first lesbian experience a couple of weekends ago, and im not really sure what to do now. It happened and it was so unreal and amazing. I am just in transition and trying to figure out what i am lesbian/ bi or what. I am not ready to come out because im still unsure and don't know how anyone around me would react, i live in the south so thats not exactly on my side. But i guess why i posted this is because i dont really know anything about the lesbian world. So please feel free to post your stories about coming out and how people reacted and other stuff, i would love to hear them.

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Welcome, Ashley! It's great to have you here! This is a wonderful place to hang out, and we're here to give you support as you travel your journey into "our" world.
Like Caly said, you might want to look through the Thursday Thoughts posts. We have many new faces here who are just realizing their feelings for women, so there are lots of coming out stories and other issues that we all deal with on a daily basis.
I've been out to myself for about three years now. I have two young children and was divorced a little over two years ago. Caly (my co-CL) and I are partners, and we are living a very happy and fulfilled life together (we're in the South too). I'm not out to many people at all, but slowly I'm getting more comfortable with other people knowing.
I also suggest that you watch some lesbian movies and read books and magazines about lesbians. You'll get lots of insights that way too.
We're looking forward to getting to know you better!
Welcome Ashley :) I am from the south, too, and I haven't decided to come out yet, but if I do, I'm sure that I will be careful about who I come out too. Only a few very close friends know that I have been with women and want to be again. I had my first full-fledged experience about 11 years ago and the older I get, the more I long to embrace the lifestyle that I believe I was meant to experience. One word of advice, if you think you might be interested in a relationship with a woman...try it!!! BEFORE you have a relationship with another man. I was looking for a girlfriend when, out of loneliness, I started dating a very nice man and got pregnant. Now, I am married to one of the most wonderful men in the world with a beautiful daughter and have come to a point in my life where I can not appreciate him the way I should because all I can think of is having that relationship I had wanted with a woman. Which...is why I am here on this board...to balance myself enough to figure things out. Best of luck to you :)
-Leaf
I have been out since I was about 19 years old. I was out to some people but not other's. Out to some family members, but not other's. I just kept slowly coming out to people as I felt comfortable to do so.
I joined a softball team and got to know a bunch of lesbians there while I was in the navy.
They introduced me to the gay lifestyle. Took me to the gay bars etc. I had a blast.
Still do.
I just felt like I finally belonged and fit in.
If you have any more questions feel free to ask.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Hiya Ashley,
Welcome to our lil corner of cyberspace. You'll meet all sort of loons (shorthand for lovely ladies .. hahahaha) here and I hope you'll come to feel very welcome!
You want to hear coming out stories and about the reactions of others before you decide if you're lesbian or bi.... but I would rather ask, how did that first experience feel? Good enough to want to do it again? LOL... Sometimes that decision you're talking about has been made already by our hearts & bodies before the head really has it figured out yet!
The labels can come later, if they're ever necesary at all. So can the 'coming out'. Relax a bit with us as you adjust to what I'm guessing is a new perspective on yourself :))
*givin you a welcoming hug as I secretly fill your pockets with m&m's*
LOLOLOLOLOL
I just started reading the article and had to just stop and respond about how hard I laughed at the first two paragraphs!! I love South Park and didn't see the episode she's talking about, but I can just imagine..."maybe they just scissor or something"...LOL scissor!!!! That is frickin' hilarious!!! Okay...gonna go finish the article now!! I think I have control of myself...
Okay...I'm back now after the fingernail thing...I don't watch that much porn anymore, but I have watched my share (all I have is girl/girl, no men allowed, etc...*gasp* imagine that) and I always thought it was stupid that the girls had long, crazy fingernails....ouch!!! That's why I don't watch much because it's too much like watching WWF wrestling or something--just too fake. I am glad that she brought this up LOL --back to the article I go...
Lesbian bed death...haha...I never knew that name existed, but I wondered about the concept before...spooning and cuddling would be better than nothing to me...which is what I have right now as I go through hetero bed death LOL
Turkey basters? that went over my head (i am blonde, afterall...no offense to any fellow blondes here, of course)
Thanks gill1234...I enjoyed reading the article. Good news for me...i have short fingernails already and when I had sex with a female the first time...I didn't try to scissor her!! So as soon as I figure out the turkey baster thing, I will be ready for my next lesson LOL Let me know if you have links to more interesting articles :)
-Leaf
Nony, you are sooooo good with the hugs and m&m's. Who wouldn't want to stay here??!!
Hugs
Blue
Leaf,
I am not seeing that post. Was it the deleted one and I am too late?
Blue
Hey, Ashley, how you doin'? Welcome here.
I and a few others here are in the slow-sometimes snail-like-process of coming out. Some are already out and livin' large.
We have fun here, talk things out, tell stories, party *wink* and generally get along well. I have been coming out to friends for about 8 months, with an explosion in March that brought me to the board. They are so supportive that it about makes me cry. Well, not really, but they have great shoulders.
Check out some of the other threads and get to know some people and some of our stories.
Hugs
Blue
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