Went to Therapy on Sat

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Went to Therapy on Sat
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 7:10am

Well I went to Therapy on Saturday. It went so well. I really like her. We talked about my life my feelings about my sexuality and mostly about my husband and his deceit with the email thing. I told her all my feelings about that and my hatered toward him for screwing up my career. I also told her some other things I do not feel comfortable discussing on here. She has basically told me it sounds like I have made up my mind to move back to IN. She gave me the information on an attorney that I need to talk to. It felt good to have my feelings validated by someone that does not know me or my husband personally. I have another appointment scheduled with her on the 5th of June.
I am still not sleeping well and have a bunch of anxiety. But I am dealing with all of this. She told me I have self esteem issues and when I told a couple of my close friends that. There were like, ya we know you do." I never thought I had self esteem issues but whatever. She gave me a book to read it is calling Pulling your own strings by someone named Dyer. I think she wants me to get a consulation with the lawyer and read the book before my next session. She didn't come out and say that to me. But she really wants me to go at least talk to a lawyer about all of my legal rights. She also told me not to tell my husband about my feelings towards women cause he could use that against me in court... oh so much to do...

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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 10:48am
Browneyes,
WOW! I am so glad to hear that you went to the counselor. She sounds great! Sounds like you need something for anxiety or you could try taking some tylonol pm or something to sleep.
So, is she right about having your mind made up about going back to Indiana? I so agree with her to not tell your husband about your feelings for women.
Sounds like you are moving forward Browneyes.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 7:13pm

*hugs*


this all sounds like good news and I'm really pleased for you!

 

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 12:11am

Hi momma!

So glad to read that the therapy session went well. The more I am here I am starting to consider it myself. I just wanted to comment on the lawyer issue. My brother is getting divorced and was told by his lawyer that his wife (she figured out she was gay) wasn't entitled to anything because she commited adultery. Not saying you are going in this direction. Just tread lightly. Definitely talk to a lawyer, you want to protect you and your son from whatever may arise. :)

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 7:37am

Hey, Browneyes,
I'm glad your counseling session went so well. It IS nice to be validated. It seems like there might be a lot to do, but three things stand out from you posting. First, you need to make an appointment with an attorney. That is the most difficult, to me, depending on your available time. Second, you need to read a book. That is your down time before bed. Third, you need to start the process of re-evaluating yourself. That will be an ongoing journey that will require work in direct relationship with your therapist. I think that all of it will fall into place once you make the first step. Shoot, you made an appointment and went to see a therapist! Give yourself a huge pat on the back for following through.
I'll be sending good vibes your way all week!

Hugs

Blue

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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 8:07pm

WOOT Momma,

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 2:11pm

Sounds like a good first meeting, Momma. I hope that you will be able to develop a plan to work on getting out of your marriage (if that's indeed what you decide to do) and improving your self-esteem. Therapy helped me tremendously in all areas of my life. Sometimes just a brief statement from my therapist can make all the difference. Words are powerful!


It can't hurt to have an initial consultation with a lawyer. It will give you some valuable information to have under your belt when/if you decide to leave.


I'm glad you've found someone to talk with. I really hope it helps.


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