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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 3:39pm

Sorry to intro and disappear. STBX snooped on my computer and confronted me about the lesbian stuff in my Favorites. I didn't lie, I told him of my interest, but the confrontation scared me off it a bit. Now I'm back, and I might add password-protected to avoid future problems ;)

Angela

Angela
 
"If all the girls who attended the Yale prom were laid end to end,
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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: freemoriah
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 3:56pm

Glad you're back. Good thing to password protect.
Hope everything is okay with the X

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Blue

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In reply to: freemoriah
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 5:04pm

Blue,

Thanks for the hugs. Yeah, everything is back to normal with the ex. He was just looking for an excuse for the demise of our marriage that left him blameless and the "my wife is a secret lesbian who never wanted me sexually and that's why we broke up" was the perfect thing to grab onto. whatever.

Angela
 
"If all the girls who attended the Yale prom were laid end to end,
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In reply to: freemoriah
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 10:52pm

Moriah,
Just so long as you are okay. Yeah, whatever. Got to be some reason YOU failed the marriage. Don't sweat it. I can only imagine how mine will be. I think along the same lines, only huge disbelief. Tonight we are out with friends, one of whom knows about me, and he is making gay jokes. Yeah, it's going to be tough.

You seem to have a good handle on it, though. Good job.

Blue

BLUE DIA
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In reply to: freemoriah
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 11:49pm
Wow! Sorry you had such problems Angela.
What did he say? How did you handle such a thing?
I wonder what made him snoop in the first place?
I hope things have settled for you for now.
Hugs,
Laurie
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In reply to: freemoriah
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 9:43am

I reminded him that when we met I told him I was bi which he still insists he didn't remember. I also told him that because of his problems with his ex (betrayed him horribly) I was always extremely careful to keep myself above board and never give him a reason to doubt my fidelity - he always knew exactly where I was, pretty much had no friends because he felt it took time away from the family so we always hung out with his friends. I told him I basically spent the last 13 years trying hard to cater to his insecurities (not in so many words ;) ) and was the very best wife I could be to him.

Then I lit into him about invading my privacy.

That shut down the whole accusation. Plus I found out afterwards that he's already involved with someone, not even 3 weeks out of our home. Whatever. whatever.

Angela
 
"If all the girls who attended the Yale prom were laid end to end,
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In reply to: freemoriah
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 10:25am

(((Angela))
Keep your head up. This is pretty awful. How convenient that he forgot what you told him, especially since you were being so upfront with him in the beginning. Sounds like time with his friends was not time away from the family to him. Many people do make adjustments like that to keep things running smoothly. It sounds like you did everything you could to make it work. Sorry, sorry, sorry.

{{{Hugs}}}

Blue

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In reply to: freemoriah
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 7:50pm

(((((((((Angela)))))))


Glad you are back and things are ok.

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In reply to: freemoriah
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 2:15pm

Glad you came back, Moriah. I'm so sorry your privacy was invaded. Good for you for standing up to your STBX, though.


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