Good Things

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Good Things
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 9:39pm

I just wanted to post this because I am soooo excited and happy this evening and I am not getting much support here at home. I feel like a little kid with a shiny new toy, and there isn't anybody to share it with, so I picked you guys. You have given me such good advice and comfort for the anxiety and bad stuff.
This afternoon I got a call that I was selected to work home plate for a district semi-final softball game tomorrow. I have polished up my shoes and belt, pressed my uniform, fixed my hat(that would be my "cover" to our military types lol), and gotten out my Underarmor.
I don't even want to work tomorrow, I just want to umpire. My name has gone into the pool of umpires for the state championship tournament now! It's kind of a big deal in my life.

Thanks for being here for me.

Blue

BLUE DIA

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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:15pm

Thank you, SB. I will ponder these thoughts. She won't be giving me any more things. I have the old NC thing happening like Roxy.

She works in my building. We share union work. I think I need to let the union go as soon as my tenure is up. That will be after the next contract negotiations. It will be easier on me then. I wonder if I should do it earlier. I think I could get a replacement tomorrow if I wanted to. Does she win then? Is it a matter of winning? Am I losing is a better question.

Okay, good thoughts with good intentions.

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Blue

BLUE DIA
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:17pm

Nope, Mich, you are not overstepping. I asked for all opinions and I am ready for the answers.

THAT is the question. Am I ready to let them go. I don't know. I want to be. Goodwill vs. giving them back is your answer, right?

Okay, thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to give me your thoughts.

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:32pm

I look at it this way, I win every day that I don't give into the impulse to have any other interaction with someone that doesn't mean me any good. Business is business, personal is personal.

Whatever you do to help make things easier for you, you have to decide that. I see it as you gaining peace of mind and not having to have your energy drained every time you come in contact with her.

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:33pm

yes, blue!

I would give them to goodwill because I dont like confrontation and what do you prove by giving them back to her? Do you think she would keep them if you did? Acting the way she is, I don't know. I get the feeling and I may be wrong, but is giving them back a way of showing how much she hurt you or maybe hoping it would hurt her?
Just thinking here.

mich

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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:58pm

Yep, that is it exactly. I am unkindly thinking of maybe it having it hurt a little if I give them back. Or maybe give them to other people to wear. I know it's awful, but I'm feeling a little vengeful. Not very Christianlike, I know, or charitable or whatever you want to call it.
I am at least going to box up the jewelry and put it deep into the closet, oops, no pun here. Kind of a funny thought, though. I can wait a little longer and get more advice. Nothing changes in the dynamics.

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 10:02pm

Yes, I know. And business and personal keep interracting here and that is part of the problem. I have also put in for the drama club assistant, even though I know that she will be the director. I know that I won't get it, but I am just being somewhat evil in having my name cross in front of her. I need to withdraw that. Sometimes, bud, I can't help myself. I'm not normally like this.

Seeing my way out of this slowly and positively with your help.
Thanks

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 10:25pm

You bad girl you!

goodnight! Hope you have a good week, you're in the homestretch now! ;)

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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 10:38pm
(((((Blue)))))
I would not give her stuff back. It would maybe make her think it is an attention getter. I would use it as you usually do or put it away if it bothers you.
Don't do anything that makes her think you are seeking attention or anything from her. Plus that will get passed on to everyone else as well. She seems to like to open her mouth about this stuff between you two.
I would not say, write, talk, look, or do anything in her direction that gives her something to talk about or expound on.
I would act as if I was happy and living life just fine without her, as if she has never existed in your life.
Just my oppinion.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 6:52am
I have to say I agree with Laurie on this one.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 8:15am
I agree with caly and Laurie, sweetone. Take the high road...it will serve *you* better in the end. Don give the stuff back, give it away or put it away. I would put it away for a while. Take care

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