Getting over heartbreak

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Getting over heartbreak
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Tue, 06-05-2007 - 3:55pm

Hello sweet women, I am new here. Have been in other boards for lesbians who came out while in a het marriage. But that is another story. I am nursing a heartbreak here. I am having to honor NC (no contact) with the Love of my life.

They say time makes all pain fade, but my keeps getting more intense by the minute. The good news is I am out at home so I dont have to grieve privately. They sad news is she is not in a supportive place and now I cant support her but to give her the space she asked for. I miss my friend. I miss my heart. This may be then end...I wont know for months. The waiting...is so hard. Oh wake me up when September ends.

Anyway, thanks for letting me share. I will take any tips on getting by, I welcom any positive statement or compassion throw my way. BTW, any other married lesbains coming out here? Oh, it is not for the faint of heart! Some of us did not know before we walked down the isle that we were lesbians. Sigh...

roxy

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:58pm

Roxy,

Nope, you did not hit a tender spot. They're all tender spots!! Okay, not really. I am just biding my time. He's gone now to CO and then will be off to FLA. I need to find me, so I am networking my lesbian and bi friends to get me out and about in the crowd. I am putting off my thoughts of telling T the situation until at least August, not like I won't think about it.

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:01pm

Caly, Yeah, that whole manhood thing is a problem. What's with the whole prowess thing anyhow. I wonder if we have that in some form???? Good therapist question. She has mentioned that it will be all about him and the why, but I am going to try to find the right words to make this all smooth. He is just like a little kid, planning and scheming our future, asking my opinion on things I have no opinion on, etc.

No worries now, he's gone for the summer!

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 8:00pm
CHEERS to a Happy summer!

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 8:38pm

I am soooo looking forward to it! I am getting my lesbian wardrobe lined up. lol
I have a lot on my plate between now and then. Ladies weekend on Saturday, umping in a college showcase tournament, end of school, golf outing(no, I am not outing myself when I golf lol), another possible hike with this cute girl, union event with the national GLBT, then to visit you. Maybe I will get lucky somewhere in there.... HAH!

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA

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