My soft place

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Registered: 06-05-2007
My soft place
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 5:58pm

I had a dynamic work day and did okay handling my recent loss(?). Gosh, I dont really know if I have lost her or if I am on the cusp of winning her, you know? All I know is she has "work" to do related to her marriage and I am honoring NC. A long NC at that. Is it October yet? lol!

But the main point to this post? I am so utterly grateful to have found this site and the wonderful souls in it. It is a huge relief and I look forward to learning about everyone's stories and cheering them on. Thank you again for making me feel so welcomed. To community, here here! I found a soft place to land and do my coming out. Thank you all.

((hugs))
Roxy

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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 7:40pm

Awwww Ting Thank you..it got better ..then worse..then better ...then really down. Ugh. So goes my heart...spinning away.

I need to get a grip...but how? I feel i need closure. Is there such a thing? Or just wishful wanting to talk it out. Women...we seem to need to "talk it out" you know?

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Registered: 04-23-2006
In reply to: roxy_blue
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 7:51pm
Oh we most definitely need to "talk it out" Though I do think there are times when even TiNG is exasperated with my need to talk. LOL

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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 7:55pm
LOL!!! some of us need to TALK it out more than others. My K can out-talk me anyday...and I thought I was a talker. It is all relative i guess.
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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 8:40pm

TiNG not able to keep up with you? I can't believe that. She can really hold her own, I think!!! lol

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: roxy_blue
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 10:13pm
I think you should give ol' M the cold shoulder like she has you and see what happens. Do not let her think that you are going to be her doormat someday.
I agree, you need someone to distract you.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Registered: 04-23-2006
In reply to: roxy_blue
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 6:41am

OH she can keep up with the best of them.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: roxy_blue
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 3:51pm

Yep, I can hold my own! I'm a classic introvert, though. I've had to learn the art of getting a word in edge-wise! lol


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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 7:18pm

I'm right there today, Laurie. She has really pissed me off. I am sure she has outted me to at least three more people and I am angry at her and at myself that I could have fallen for somebody who has so little compassion.

The summer is looking better already. Dropping the chains that bind me and moving on. You know this is the anger talking, but it is a good dose of reality.

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 7:22pm

That is such a good skill to learn!

When I was a kid, I was so introverted, I would make myself physically ill so that I didn't have to attend parties or go to other kid's houses. My mother used to be so frustrated. I really don't know what changed me, except that I finally made a sports team in high school. That was a life altering event for me.

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 7:48pm

((((BLUE))) I can't imagine how hurt/angry you must feel. The one good thing is it can help you let go of her and FAST!....Ugh. Still hurts I am sure!

Hugs

Roxy