How do I unhook?
Find a Conversation
How do I unhook?
| Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:29pm |
How to I let go. I am getting bogged down in too puch pain. I think i need to watch it or I will be in not a good place by October. Any tips. I go from denial (holding on to the idea she will come back) to grief to confusion. I feel I need to talk to her. It is driving me crazy. She asked for NC. I should honor that? Do email her BFF who knows it all and ask for a phone call? Do I just decide it is over? Can you tell I am confused and hurting. Ugh. What do i do?

Pages
What my IRL friend just said about my BRIGHT (sarcastic) idea to ask for a phone call...
"It seems like she made it very clear what she wants, so contacting her and
>going against her wishes wouldn't be a very nice thing to do. What feels
>reasonable to you doesn't appear to be the same for her. She's probably
>not trying to intentionally hurt you, but whatever she is going
>through...well, it sounds like she wants to do it on her own right now.
>I'm sorry, this isn't a very happy scenario. It seems like if she wanted
>to contact you, she would, so if she doesn't...
>
>Patti, I hate to say it, but maybe it's time to consider that this
>relationship may be over for now. At least on hold. How else can it be
>interpreted? I don't know, I've never been in this situation, but that is
>how it would feel for me."
She is 100% right...sigh. Ahh the agony of it all. :-(,,,,
Take it one hour at a time. keep busy. Try to respect her NC request. If she feels the same way, she might break the NC herself.
Keep your mind busy on other things that interest you.
take care,
Hugs,
Laurie
PS; If I think of anything else I'll be back.
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
No, babe, you are my type. You can plainly see me. I'll wear a dress occasionally, if the situation warrants it and I clean up real good. I sort of blur the lines. Soft butch, blue jeans fem/butch, kind of like a chameleon.
Don't go making trouble here unless you can handle it. You are reeling from one and don't want to jump into another. lol
Besides, you must live on the other side of the universe to be egging me on like this.
Good thing this is just for fun.
Blue
Holding you both close and giving you gentle noogies to erase these women from you minds.
I know this is hard. You will make it through this. I am sorry that your heart is so broken right now. I wish I could just reach in there and fix it with my rainbow toolbelt and assorted tools.
Take care and keep posting when you want/need to.
Hugs,
Laurie
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
Yep, you see all the rational people in our worlds tell us that we need to respect wishes. Geez, she was almost verbatim of my people. Just hang on, October is not that far away and you kind of want to hold back until then. I think Laurie and Caly are right about moving on and then waiting to see what happens then.
Sounds like you have so much to do with your business and keeping things going. Focus on that, work your butt off (there and the gym, but I think you might not have a butt lol), and see what the fall brings.
I KNOW this is hard. I get it, really. I think it's gotta be like AA-one day at a time.
Laurie,
I love your toolbelt. Mine has not yet come in the mail. I can't remember why I won it, but I think it came after the toaster. lol
**Reaching up and rubbing my head from the noogie.***
Why are we having this conversation???? lol
Thanks and the bear hug back to you
Blue
Oh I can see you! Prrrr... That does not mean I am your type. LOL!!
But you are more than right. My heart is a mess! Trust me you dont want that while i struggle to heal. And it sounds like you are taking amazing steps coming out. Yay to you.
"Don't go making trouble here unless you can handle it." Truth is i tend to be very emotionally responsible and caring. And you dont deserve near my heart as a rebound. Not that I dont rebound anyway, fall deeply and takes time to heal. And the interior landscape...well that is what catches me in the end...but Golly nothing wrong with your exterior landscape at all. You are HOT so take that to the bank and cash it! Chaching!!!
Hugs and wink
Roxy
Sounds like you are having one hot summer!
And where can I see this pic of you in uniform?
Hugs,
Laurie
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
Oh I have a girl round butt. Trust me. Never goes away. Plus i do swatts, glut machine and spin 5 x per week. But I will work and see what happens in October. Meantime I will be fearless..UGH FEARLESSLY working. Ugh!
Yes like AA, a day...at at time... minute at a time. And I am powerless over what will happen. Hello my name is Roxy and I am powerless over unrequited love. sigh. Where do i pick up my white chip?
sigh....
Pages