she broke up with me

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Registered: 06-05-2007
she broke up with me
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:34pm

I am heartbroken. I held onto hope. She minimized us. SOunded so cold and business like. Said it was a coping mechanism. I cried cried and cried. She did not.It the cancer in her. I started to be for friendship but she sees it as a mistake...how do you ask someone who sees you as a mistake to be your friend. She sais she was so sorry she hurt me.

I did not do well. I feel terrible I feel apart and that added pressure to her. So now she wont want to me my friend because she hates pressure and conflict. I was not prepared. ugh. I am so sad

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 7:03pm

Babe, if you emailed me, I did not get it and I have been waiting. I don't want you to think that I am dissing you in any way by not writing back. Resend it, if you want to or send another. I'm here to help.

((((((Hugs))))))

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 7:27pm

Blue is right, there will be time for words later.

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 7:45pm
Thank you...i will need words.. the hard ones. the ones that make me look at my part. Ugh..I dont have a sense of trust in me because i bought her words...she said it was honeymoon and not real. Not day to day real.
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Registered: 09-29-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:23am
((((((Roxy)))))) don't beat yourself up over having shown your feelings and cried tears.... You are entitled to that..You are Human..As the others said... time for words later.. You need to feel your feelings and

 C  >^. A .

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 7:35am

Roxy,


I hope today finds you doing OK.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 11:17am

How are you doing today, friend?


I firmly believe that one day K will wake up and realize how miserable she is. It's obvious that she is hurting and unhappy. I'm sorry she chose to deflect that hurt onto you instead of being honest and compassionate.


You take care of YOU, k? You did nothing wrong in how you reacted and handled the situation.


Big hugs


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Registered: 06-05-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 3:21pm

I hurt. I am replaying in my head all she said. I hurt . I am in shock at what she said.

Roxy

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 11:39pm
Oh ((((((Roxy))))) How well I know those replays of things said

 C  >^. A .

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:07am

I am so sorry you're having to go through this. That feeling absolutely sucks!! You know though, I have acted in the same way that she did....acting almost emotionless in order to cope with a situation that I really just want to fall apart in. I imagine that she felt alot more than she was showing... Big hugs for you and I'm so glad you have us to vent to and get support from!

Anns

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