So i got an email

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Registered: 06-05-2007
So i got an email
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 6:00pm

I got an email from her yesterday. The day following the break up. I guess she felt bad??

Here is what she said..

"{BFF} said that you sent a really nice email to her yesterday, thank you for that. I told her about our conversation. Any way you could call me now? I don't know if I handled the conversation yesterday very well. I want to know if you are ok."

I had email her BFF this right after talk (the jarring talk). She had helped (talked K into breaking NC). This is what I had emailed.

" Subject line: Thank you.
I had not realized that she and I had been on such different places emotionally. Oh {BFF's Name}, thank you. When she described things to me how she saw them, I see now she has moved on and they were just words. I think she is doing what is best for her and i agree with both of you now, how could it have possibly been me. Feeling more than a little silly. Thank you for your help.

Thank you for you patience and kindness you showed me.

Warm regards to you
Me"

I have not responded. I think she wants me to call to make herself feel a little better about all the things she said. I dont think she is having a change of heart by any means. Just wants to feel better and have me say that I am okay. I am not okay being treated the ways she handle the talk of the terms of NC. I think it would be not the smartest thing to call just so she can restate that is over and feel better. She has the option so saying it on an email.

I thought i'd get feeback from all of you. Thanks.

Roxy

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 7:32pm

Roxy,

You know how I feel. Don't respond, don't call. Of course she will tell the BFF that it is all your fault, 'cause you could have responded and now you are shutting her out. Well, if she wants to believe that lie, nothing you can do about it.

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 7:46pm

Roxy,

I agree that she probably feels bad about the conversation now that she's not right in the middle of it. And I agree that she is probably wanting a call so that she can re-explain, maybe in a nicer way but nonetheless, her why's and such & to try and make the break-up 'better'. I know it would be soooo difficult not to call, but I think you are doing the right thing. I'm sorry you're having to go through all these sucky emotions right now! Keep up the logical thinking and post whenever you need us!

Anns

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 7:51pm

Thanks for posting, i am getting in that funky gray area...geez, i thought it would come much later. It has only been 24 hours since i got the email. Must stay strong. Strong.

Roxy

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 7:52pm
Thanks for posting, i need all the feeback and support i can get...geez, i thought it would come much later. Must stay strong. Strong. I dont want to be a jerk, but i want to take care of me also.
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Registered: 06-05-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 8:08pm

Blue, I emailed you...check it?

Roxy

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 8:41pm

I feel you absolutely should Not call her after what she said to you the first time.

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 8:50pm
Priceless 2 cents thank you for keeping me strong! No call, no email back.
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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 9:34pm

K. You know, somebody has to walk the dog and feed the cats around here. lol

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Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 06-05-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 9:39pm

Yeah, yeah, get thee to your email account...!

Lol!

Thanks for saving me from emailing her...i almost did. UGH!! Double UGH!

Hugs

Roxy

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 11:40am

((((((((((Roxy)))))))))))


I only have a quick minute to respond. Just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you and I agree with the others - don't let her have the upper hand in this. The ball is in your court. Keep it there!


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