I stood up for myself!!
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I stood up for myself!!
| Sun, 06-17-2007 - 1:19pm |
I stood up for myself on the other board against the MAIN bully! And lo and behold! The owner of the board, came back and backed me up! She is an MSW and owns the board, though I am not sure who moderates it.
Anyway, It made me feel really good and got back some of my trust back. I wont go into details about the drama there because i dont believe in empowering meaness and negativity but I just wanted to share that here...my new safe HOME!
Hugs to all!!!
Roxy

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Congratulations with standing up for yourself. Sometimes you have to, even with friends. I've done it for myself at times, even with the ladies here. Sometimes I've done it publicly and sometimes through email. But in every instance, I've done it respectfully and tactfully. I've tried to not be nasty and negative.
I've done it at another site that I frequent and that I'm a moderator at. Specifically, on the message board. Keep up the growth and you will be ok.
Thanks,
Sebastian
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
Thank you ((Sebastian)). Yes, i kept in mind to be truthful and respectful but very firm. This person was spreading rumors about me having multiple IDs (and posting to my own replies--who has time for that nonsense?) to create drama on the board. All of it is false and can be proven by looking at ISP numbers by board monitors. This person just has a vendetta against me and I am all okay about that (because what she does is her business, how I react to her is my Karma).
WHen i posted under a new ID there I did say initially that i had changed my handle out of respect in case my exMarried GF used to posted there (i dont think she even reads anymore) I just wanted to protect her ID and privacy. I only shared my side of my pain there and shared nothing she had said (again to protect her privacy--and it is not like me to not respect her side) I have only shared more specific things here because i know she wont find this board and i dont need to worry about her getting her feelings hurt here.
Anyway once this person sniffed out my ID, she came after me...making up more gossip and innuendo about me. She has it in for the board owner because she has a competing board of her own....so weird. I dont get her motivation. She is going after her PHD in Pschy but she is really a bit off balance about power...for no reason i can think of.
She has been a board bully for a while and caused the thing to get shut down. I dont know why the onwer does not ban abusive posters. Anyway i got supported and that felt good!
Well, the only thing that I can say about iVillage and this community and the ones that semi-frequent, is that The Community moderators are very understanding and very open-minded ladies. They will help out when they think there is a problem and they will definately permanently oust anyone that is causing a disruption, no matter who it is.
I've had the wonderful experience of being here when a sweet lady named Pam, and a wonderful young lady, that has found her heart's desire, named Courtney. The both of them were awesome community leaders. Both of them obviously had to step down, because they had to go and live their lives. Since then, we've had some awesome community leaders, and they've also had to step down, one for reasons of taking care of her mom, and the other, once again, has found the love of her life.
I can't say enough about them all. But the ladies that are community leaders, are just as great as their predecessors. None of them has permitted anyone to be bullied or harrassed. Of course, along with the rest of the board, no one is bullied or harassed without the whole host of ladies, including me, backing them up (if they're in the right).
So, please feel comfortable in knowing that you are safe.
{{{{{Roxy}}}}}
Thanks,
Sebastian
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
(((Sebastian))) Thank you for helping me feel safe here Sebastian. Truly. I thank you!
Is it okay to send you hugs? PLease let me know what makes you most comfortable? Okay?
Roxy
I accept hugs from anyone. I will remain respectful with my hugs also.
Thanks,
Sebastian
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
YOU ROCK!!, ((babe)).
Not only did you stand up for yourself, but you are worried about the feelings of your X in the process. Who here couldn't help but admire that. And you stood up for yourself in a respectful way. Just amazing..
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Blue
BLUE!!! world war III just broke, now everyone is defending me and bully is swinging throwing punches..Sheesh. Can i say how much I appreciate the environment here. I love it here. It gives a good view of good women...and I needed to see it...
HUgs
Roxy
Just a suggestion.......
Leave the other board. What happened there stays there....
On the other hand, the bully may just drop off and you will need to make a decision as to whether or not you want to stay.
Blue
I think i will leave the other board....it helped...but time to move on. Plus it was a reminder of her too.
Hugs
Roxy
I'm with Blue on this Roxy...why not just let that other board go?
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