A Ringing Sensation...

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A Ringing Sensation...
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 9:36pm

I have a very serious question, but I can't even believe I am asking. I am looking for pros and cons to this with reasons why.

I want to know if you think I should remove my wedding rings when I go to my union event this weekend or leave them on. I don't want to misrepresent myself, but I don't want to put people off. Okay, I know this is weird and it sounds really awful, but please remember I am new to all of this and am trying to find my way. Is this a terrible thought? Should I even consider it? I don't even want to ask my therapist this question on Tuesday, so I'm asking you.

Please be nice and break it to me gently.

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Blue

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 9:52pm

*sigh* LOL! Blue, I wouldn't worry about your wedding rings. Do what you think is comfortable for you. If you want to take them off, put them in your home in a safe place, if you want to keep them on, turn the stone inside of your palm, to protect it, of course.

I don't think too many folks there would care, on way or the other. More than likely, they would think that you have a very rich sweetheart, roflol!! Just kidding!

My suggestion, if you're still having doubts, ask your therapist. But if it were me, I would wear them until I decided to take them off, I wouldn't worry too much about how I'm seen, really, it's no one's business.

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Sebastian.

 


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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 8:21am

Hey Blue,


My 2 cents? If in

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 8:50am
Take it off Blue, if you are trying to let them know you are lesbian. But if you meet someone let them know that you are still married and working on coming out to him etc.
This is part of your coming out process.
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Laurie
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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 4:51pm

Sebastian, thank you very much for your input. I value your opinion.

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Blue

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:04pm

Thanks, Caly.

I need to hear as much as possible about this as I make my decision. I guess that since I am even asking the question I am leaning toward taking them off. I just maybe need little nudge for somebody to say it's okay. I need to hear the other side, it there is one. So, thanks, you always make sense.

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Blue

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:14pm

Laurie, thanks. I think the honest part in this case is they way to go if I actually bump into someone.. Course, I'm not being honest with my dh. Does this make me a dishonest person? Clinically, I'd say yes, but then the truth is that I haven't been honest all my life. But, was it dishonety or protection???? This could be a very slippery slope if I continue on this path, so I'd better quit now. lol Good discussion for therapy.

Thanks a bunch, girl, life is a continuing process.

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Blue

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:47pm

Too funny Sebastian and good advice! LOL!

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Roxy

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:50pm

I vote with everyone else here...take them off....and have fun!

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Roxy

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 6:26pm

Thanks, Roxy. I'll keep you posted!!

Blue

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 7:25pm

Thank you, roxy. In a way, I can understand how Blue feels. I know that being honest on all levels is important, but usually, it's the one that has to make the final decision, benefits either way.

But, I just like to confuse nosey people, if it were me, I would just say, "Oh, I don't think my wife would approve". But then, I'm just a smart butt. ;-)

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Sebastian.

 


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