Thurs. Thoughts....What's it like?

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Thurs. Thoughts....What's it like?
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 7:51am

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I know that sounds like a silly question but I thought it might be fun to discuss.

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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:44pm

"It's better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all."


I so agree. Sounds like you have made some wonderful friends in the community.


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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:46pm

You might be really surprised at how your coworkers react if you tell them. As I posted to Annz, my aunt and uncle, who are very homophobic, were very accepting of me. The hardest part will probably getting the words out, but if they do treat you like family, they will/should accept you no matter what your orientation is.


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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 5:28pm

The best part of being a lesbian is simply living my life in a way that is true to who I am and doing that in a very open and honest way. I am who I am and I make zero apologizes for that........no one should ever apologize for being who they are. I am very fortunate that my coworkers, friends and the majority of my family are 100% supportive. I think my openess has helped with some of that. When I came out I encouraged people to ask me a question if they had one rather than speculate or whisper behind my back. The response I've gotten from that has been so positive. I've had people tell me that they've never known a gay person before and that knowing me has made them see how "normal" our lives are. They see the similarities, not the differances. I'm proud of who I am and proud to share it. And lucky to live in a place that is quite accepting of that.

The bad part? Ex girlfriends, my Mom. Worrying about walking down the street holding hands because you never know who is walking or driving behind you. I have a friend who believes that I will burn in hell for my sin's............that makes me sad. Also, Shelley's Mom dismisses me as her "friend" and I hate that. I feel like I am her wife and deserve to be respected as such. She doesn't treat me badly, she just treats me like nothing, like I'm not a valid part of Shelley's life.

Shannon

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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 5:59pm

Hey Shannon!


Thanks for your input.


I agree that sometimes openess can be the best thing. Slowly over the last 2 years I have been more direct at work about Kirche being my partner and our family life etc and while I never walked in an announced "I'm a lesbian" I know that everyone knows at work and just accepts me for who I am.

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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:07am

Well, I wasn't in any shape to answer this a couple of days ago. As a matter of fact, I was in a downright funk about it all-overwhelmed with the enormity of it all. But what a difference a day makes. And what a difference to reach out here and feel support. I also reached out to myself-or into myself-and felt so much power and peace yesterday.

Last night as I rocked my almost 3 year to sleep-I felt the tears well up again-but this time they were very joyous tears. I actually realized I'm priviledged to be a lesbian-that it is a very special "position" to hold in our world. I realized that when I do come out all the way-that I want to exude my own happiness in who I am. I feel I have a responsibility to all those who come after me-to present myself as a normal, healthy, loving person who is proud of who I am. And I am. I know I have a long way to go-so many steps to take-and I'm taking them.

The best part about being a lesbian? Finally recognizing that I love women because they're soft, warm, strong, beautiful-and that it's normal! The worst part? Knowing that many many people won't get that and trying to not let that take away the joy of loving that part of myself.

But Caly's right! It's a special family-and those people who don't get it-well they are missing out! I know where I belong-finally! Thanks sisters!

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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:15am

What an awesome post Passion! Thank you for sharing your feelings. 8-)


One thing to always remember is its not 'wrong' to be who you are, even if a few other people may think so.


((((((Passion)))))

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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 6:35pm

Awww, Passion....

I really liked that post. Wonderful stuff right there! Thanks for the affirmation.

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 5:03am

Nice thread! I do enjoy the topics you come up with Caly!


The best part about being a lesbian is my partner, Lynnie-Lou. We've been a couple for 6 yrs now and lived together for 4. I've never felt more comfortable or loved before in my life. The relationship we have is supportive and loving, never demanding or role-restricted. All those ideals I used to hold secretly in my head, I've found in her.


We've been really lucky in the acceptance department :) . Her VERY large family has always made me feel welcome and loved. My parents took a little longer but have come round. They say they love her and ask after her when they phone and I've never seen them behave awkwardly towards her.


The hardest part is that Mom still throws into conversations (with me alone) what I call her 'little disclaimers'. She'll say, 'I still don't believe it's the right thing.' or 'I know God disapproves, but as long as you feel your happiness today is worth it.'

 

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 9:39am

Hey Nony!


Glad you like the threads, I do too. 8-)


Sorry about your Mom. It just amazes me how religion can be so 'all consuming' in this world.

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