It's so hard sometimes.............
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It's so hard sometimes.............
| Sun, 07-08-2007 - 7:51pm |
Edited by Shannon
Edited 7/16/2007 1:31 am ET by irishowl
| Sun, 07-08-2007 - 7:51pm |
Edited by Shannon
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Thank you all so much for your advice and hugs, it really does mean alot to me. Last night I told her to come talk to me when she was done playing. She sat in the bathroom while I soaked in the tub and we had a nice talk. I know it's not that she doesn't care about my feelings, she's just so absorbed with her pain right now. After our talk we watched a movie together, had a snack and went to bed. It was good for both of us I think. She has an appt today with her regular Dr to see if there is anything she can do for her before the consulation with the pain specialist and also to see if she will sign her out of work for a bit while we get this under better control for her. My unit at the hospital closed temporarily due to low census so I took today off so I could go with her. I also don't want her driving too much, she's a bit loopy. On the way home we are going to stop at the farmer's market, so that will be fun.
Shannon
I'm really pleased that you two were able to spend a bit of quality time together last night, Shannon. All the others have gioven such good advice, I don't think I can add anything!
My honey lives with near-constant pain too, but it waxes and wanes in intensity. It can be hard, but you have to keep talking, encouraging and taking care of yourself as well.
~ Nony
Thanks for the encouragement! I'm sorry to hear that your honey has problems too!
We are doing ok so far. Shelley feels pretty good today. She does have moments where she wonders if she will wind up permanently disabled. She feels like she should be taking care of me, not the other way around. I am so lucky that my work was understanding and let me stay home with her all week, if we didn't have domestic partner benefits where I work I would not have been able to. I actually went to work for an hour yesterday to get my evaluation done for the year. I overheard someone who knows I am out on kin care making a nasty comment that "the gays" can stay home with their sick partners but she can't stay home to take care of her sick boyfriend! I let it go,but I am going to approach her on Monday when I return. I'm going to tell her that our workplace has a very strict anti discrimination policy and that her comment could be misinterpreted. I'm also going to tell her if she wants to stay home with her sick boyfriend then she should marry him! If Shelley and I were not legally registered with the state as domestic partners I would not be able to take my kin care time. Eh, this is the same chick who was complaining that it was so "easy" for lesbians to get their partners names on the birth certificate of their babies, but the law made it MUCH harder for straight single Moms. Again, it goes back to the hold being married thing. If ignorance is bliss this chick must live in nirvana!
Shannon
You go, lady!!!!! Stand up for your rights! LOL!
Sebastian
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
Shannon, you might not like where I go with this, and for that I apologise...
when someone parks in front of a computer all day, every day... there is something rather serious going on. And I'm not talking on the obvious physical problems.
I used to work for myself, was a sahp. Lived most of my life with gender issues, kept it all locked away inside, believed I was about a foot away from being permanently committed... to an institution.
The internet taught me otherwise. It opened doors, one of which was iVillage, or rather an assimilated competitor. As I overcame this outlook, it also raised hell with a relationship of 27 plus years. And the more it raised hell, the more the walls within me came down, the more needy I became. And the only place I could find the needed support was out here.
I became totally dysfunctional, dealing with a combination of ptsd and a need to hide and to be emotionally kept standing. It was a vicious, vicious, circle. And what was once a strong partnership, with someone who was my best friend, lie in unrepairable tatters.
Someone constantly
worlds undone
C >^. A .
Nellenelle,
You haven't offended me, Shelley and I both acknowledge that she uses her gaming as a way to escape her back pain. It's also how she escapes stress. Some people jog, knit, drink.......my girl games. I may not always like it, but I know what it is. I would much rather she deal with her stress and pain this way as opposed to drinking, abusing drugs or going on a horrendous spending spree......:lol:
I don't blame her for any of this. We have alot of issues in our life that I have not posted about here. We both work and go to school. We are responsible for her elderly parents. We are in the middle of a lawsuit with a contractor who nearly destroyed our home 2 years ago. I don't blame her for hiding from that, because we have been living a nightmare.
I do think maybe my posting my vent was a mistake.
Sometimes
Sometimes
I see much more than's good for me
The first thing that's on my mind
The last place I look each time
~
worlds undone
*hugs*
don't be too hard on yourself... writing and pondering is cathartic.
Sometimes
Sometimes
I see much more than's good for me
The first thing that's on my mind
The last place I look each time
~
worlds undone
ooOOOOOoooo, I don't like this person you work with! While I am the least violent person you'll ever meet, for that one, I'd have a few good fantasies involving a good shove and a hella-scolding!!
I see you protecting yourself and Shelley too. Your posts are gone and you regret having your vent. Please remember though, we're here to support eachother and sharing insight from our lives is one of the ways we reach out. You might find loads or bare traces that could relate to you.. but it's all given with a generosity of spirit, concern for you AND Shelley too!
It's awful to think of you having no place to vent.
*gigantic hugs* .. hey those pockets feel empty again...
*loading you up with m&m's to keep you going*
~ Nony
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