Update on my K

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Update on my K
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 3:24pm

So my friend (My K)...i call her my friend now. She may be looking at a separation. Her H gave her a talk last night and said something has got to give. She cried, i cried. I am so worried for her.

We wont have contact for a while again...i am okay with that. I want her safe. I just realized how deeply i love her...i dont want her to hurt..about anything. I suggested couple's counseling. I am so, so worried for her.

Nothing to do but pray and pray.

(worried) sigh

Roxy

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In reply to: roxy_blue
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 12:09am

If it's ok that I give you a hug then here {{{{{roxy}}}}}. I hope that makes you feel a bit better.

Sebastian

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 8:27am

Awww Sebastian. Thank you for the hug. It does. I guess i am confused (a little) and sad. She cut all contact off with me again. I understand....but i woke up this morning...feeling a little angry. Anger covers up hurt. With me anger lasts ...maybe five minutes.

Hugs

Roxy

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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 7:15pm

Oh, ((((Roxy))), so sorry. I am here for you if you need it.

Hugs

Blue

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In reply to: roxy_blue
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 7:37pm

Who cares about that!! WHO HOOOO I am so happy for you!! So where is she from? And did you connect...emotionally?

More details...pretty please with sugar on top!

Roxy

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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: roxy_blue
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 12:47am
((((((((((((((((((Hugs Roxy)))))))))))))))))))))


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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 8:59am
So I talked to her yesterday. She called me. It was her birthday too. And we talked for allmost and hour and a half. She cares about me...romantically. Yet we are threading that thin line. I am supporting her decision to see if her Marriage will work. If it does she gets an easier life...on the surface of things...BUT if you are just queer like me, underneath, it just wont be enough.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: roxy_blue
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 11:05am
Oh Roxy, such a roller coaster ride for you with K. I hope this will turn out for the good. Please don't give up on her just yet. Maybe she will get a seperation if she realizes she is really a female gay person.
If she still cares about you romantically try to understand where she is coming from and give her the time she needs. If she comes back to you it might be baggage free and it might last longer.
I hope she comes back to you.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 2:01pm

(((Laurie))) Thank you. That was such a sweet post. Yes, i think she realized she is a female gay person (chuckling about Blue). I told her on our last talk that maybe she should consider herself Bi, if only to give her marriage a real shot. I guess part of me wants it easier for her. Life would simply be easier...you know?

But hey, i would not change my orientation for anything. I am happy how I was created.

I do feel a little flat though..the push and pull and now..I dont know...i guess there is no more push...because we made things so that there was nothing to push against.

She needs me to be/act platonic so she has emotional integrity... i get that. Only thing is after a while of acting as if...? Will i start feeling like her friend?

This go around, I did not HURT over her need to pull away. I was not surprised. I was not shocked. I was a little sad and then it wore off. I feel strangely ...accepting of it. And that part is confusing me. If i dont HURT over her?.....what does that mean? Maybe I am just becoming protective of myself? Or that i am detaching to the point of really JUST being friends?

Oh It gets confusing....THANKS for letting me vent

Roxy

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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: roxy_blue
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 7:42pm

Well, honey, this female gay person is really pulling for you. When the dust settles, as I told R about us, maybe there will be a space for you. I'm crossin' my fingers and makin' a huge wish.

((((Roxy))))

Blue

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In reply to: roxy_blue
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 7:57pm

Thanks Blue...but i am not holding my breath...oh...i cannot afford to get hurt like that again. I think part of me shutdown a little. I just feel flat. And it just is not like me...to not feel.

Roxy

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