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| Thu, 07-19-2007 - 7:49pm |
SO I just thought I would share my recent girl drama with my fellow ladies. So I have been seeing this girl for about 2.5 months, we were together every second we could, she moved to an Island so I moved to the Island, we would watch the stars, we would share clothes, and try the weirdest food that we could find together, we could sit and do nothing and not be bored. She loved me and I loved her. There didnt seem that anything could seperate us; until she started to flirt with other people (she is bi) when we went out to dinner she would ask the waiter for his number, and she would say that she was just friendly, she knew it bothered me, and she stopped for a long while... until one day she came into my work to see me, and there was a group of sailors buying fudge, I was helping them as she waited and exchanged playful faces at eachother, then she went up to one of the men and started flirting with him, I was like sweet here it comes again... and sure enough there it goes.. the numbers were exchanged, and something different happened this time... 1.she walks out with the guy 2. doesnt even say hi or goodbye 3. I called her when I got out and she didnt call me for days... she wonders why I broke up with her; am I crazy? Jealous? do I have the right to be?>

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I dont think you are Crazy. Not at all. This would have broken my heart too. I am so sorry you experienced this. Giving and exchanging numbers goes beyond FLIRTING! That is not just being a flirt.
So sorry. Be extra gentle as you heal your heart. BTW, i think she could have done this with women too...I dont think this is because she is BI...but maybe because she is narcissistic. This is probably too early to hear...but one day you will be glad you inly invested a couple of months and not longer.
Hugs
Roxy
You should break things off with her if you do not like sharing.
Unless she does not think you are in a one on one relationship yet.
Is it possible she thinks that you two are just dating and not in a commitment.
Have you discussed those things.
Sorry that you had to go through this. I would have been really hurt.
Guard your heart if you continue to see her again.
I would move on if I were you.
And no, you are not crazy!! You are normal.
Hugs,
Laurie
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"Is it possible she thinks that you two are just dating and not in a commitment."...true...but gosh, is it rude to pick someone else up right in front of you even if you are just dating?
I mean date...but be polite. Just my thought. Or am I a typical girl? Umm a typical "Female Gay Person" Girl...that is. Ha!...lol that was so cute of Blue's Mom.
Hugs
Roxy
My mom has known about me for about 19 years and she still calls me gay because she hates the word lesbian.
She has gay and lesbian friends and she just cannot get used to the word lesbian. I don't like that word much either but am getting used to it.
Are you a girly girl roxy? lol.
Hugs,
Laurie
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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
"Are you a girly girl roxy? lol." well...I am not butch, I am feminine...but not fussy and not overly fem. I dont have a closet full of purses or too many shoes. Shopping is NOT my first choice or 2nd or 3rd...for fun things to do. I wear make-up (natural looking-clean). I keep my finger nails short on purpose (my hair and nails grow really fast). I do polish my toe nails. I am into fitness. I have long hair--touchable, not sticky hairp products).
I am just a girl who happens to be a female gay person. My friends who are female gay persons would say I am femme (but i am not an uber fem b y any stretch). In the het world i would not be a girlie girl ( in the L world i am closer to that...i guess)lol!
The word lesbian at first felt foreign to me too...why do you not like it?
I agree with Roxy and Laurie, however from your post it doesn't look like you have had much conversation. Are you okay with you breaking up with her, or are you quietly longing for more? If it is possible to have an unemotional discussion to get answers to your questions, I think you should try it. Remember, you are the one who broke it off, so you may not get a warm reception.
If you want assurances that you are normal, I'm with the others that you are. If you thought you were both more committed than she did, you made the right decision. Geez, getting phone numbers while you are standing there watching is just over the top.
FGP-Blue
Baby, you are definitely femme. And that being said, would you know when you had too many shoes in your closet?? lol
I think that some people have trouble with the word lesbian because of the way we were brought up. It was one of hush hush words that people said out of the corner of their mouths. You know, a girl would walk by and your friend would lean close to you with that "knowing nod" and say something like "There goes that lesbian," Or kids would call me or other kids "YOU DYKE" and then you were kind of expected to defend your hetero honor. That was all back in the day, as the kids say. Now the terms are used in a more open and friendly manner, so the sting is gone from the word for younger women and guys, too.
fgp blue
Well I just don't like the sound of the word lesbian. Sometimes just kidding around I will call Sheila or I old lezzy's etc.
But for some reason the sound of the word lesbian is just not right to me. But like I said, I have grown used to it. Maybe it is because I have heard it used in such derrogatory means before. Not sure exactly.
Just like other words I don't like for example I don't like sack for bag or the "P" word etc.
Just my thing I guess.
Hugs,
Laurie
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
Awww Blue...you said... "Baby, you are definitely femme."...we'll I will take that..LOL.
Hope that is a good thing, right? (wink) Trying to figure it out..but who I am..how it shows up... just fits me...feels comfy. I dont think i could pull of butch if i tried. BUT I AM definately a Lesbian....! Happy to be one too!
" And that being said, would you know when you had too many shoes in your closet?? lol"...LOL! soo true! Maybe I do have TOO many shoes already! LOL!!!
Hugs
Roxy
PS--i have had some kind of day. H is getting on my nerves...ugh.
Of course that's a good thing. I like you just the way you are. Seriously.
Caly is always talking about how Kirche has too many shoes. lol I figured y'all were in that group. Just kidding, I don't like to stereotype or anything. I know I have too many sneakers and probably too many shoes, also, and I'm not even a femme.
Sorry about H. All relationships have their issues whether we have husbands, wives, partners, or significant others. You know, if everybody here would just do things my way, we would all get along a whole lot better! lol
Email or call if you wanna talk.
Hugs
Blue
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