Hello to all! I am new ..Help pls...

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Registered: 07-22-2007
Hello to all! I am new ..Help pls...
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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 6:26pm

I hope this isn't inapropriate for this forum, but I have some questions I never thought I'd be asking in a kazillion years. I never have considered myself to be a lesbian. I have always been single, and the only relationships I've ever had have been with men. I just turned 50 a few months ago.

I am confused. I think I may be in love (or is it just infatuation?) with a woman I know. I have known her for almost 2 years, and I work with her almost every day. We have become good friends and help each other out frequently. She's a single Mom, and in her words, "strictly dickly". We are on the exact same wavelength on many things and both share a similar sense of humor. Until recently that was pretty much it, good buddies, work well with each other, that kind of thing.

What happened? I don't know... part of it started when she got her hair cut, I think. She is cute to begin with, short and chubby with sparkling blue eyes and big boobs, a quick laugh, a kind heart, and a wicked sense of humor. The hair cut really brightened and enhanced her features.

My problem. The nature of our job means that we work in very close physical proximity to each other. Recently when that occurs I am all at once stimulated, embarrassed, ashamed, entranced, and extremely happy! It makes my day just to be around her, but then I also am horribly guilty for having these thoughts.

The trouble here of course is she is straight, and I always thought I was, too. What gives? Am I having some sort of mid-life turnabout or something?

I sure would appreciate any advice anyone might have.

Edited 7/22/2007 6:50 pm ET by rosebud_fl




Edited 7/22/2007 6:52 pm ET by rosebud_fl

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 9:05am

Hmmmmm First its the silver jewelry, Now I didn't realize there was an offical "Lesbian" vehicle either.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 10:26am
I drive a van so I can take my German Shepherd with me. And the other dogs too. Mostly for Mike though, he goes to the park in it.
We bought Sheila a Sonata to drive to work in.
We so don't look like lesbian vehicles.
No rainbow stickers either. Hmmm...
The neighbors have us pegged though.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Registered: 07-22-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:12am

Yes I was up later last night than I usually am and up early this morning... my air conditioning is out in my house and I couldn't sleep well. They're coming to fix it tomorrow, I will be happy for that!

I have to mow the yard today so maybe it will at least seem cooler inside after being outdoors most of the day. July in Florida is not a good time to lose your A/C!

I always thought gay women drove trucks or something, but like Caly sad maybe that's a butch stereotype. I've actually owned a couple trucks myself and I loved them, I have a van now. I love to garden and a van or truck is great to haul gardening stuff in; plus my dog loves it!

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:25am

Aww yes minicooper....dream....yes. Maybe a volvo is for those power lesbians...he he.

I'd rather keep a BMW...but would trade it in for a minicooper. The new model is a much smoother ride. Love them. Now if I could only make up my mind on the color...hmmm

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:34am

Hey, Rox, the color should be in "Hello Officer Red." Is there any other. Actually the woman who lives next door to me has one in yellow and it is quite sporty. I suspect that sh is a lesbian, for real. She lives there with her mom, but I only see a woman coming to visit her, and about 2 months ago I saw her with the same woman at a local bar. Just a theory.

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FgpBlue

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Mon, 07-30-2007 - 8:30am

Yes, i love the yellow one...even though i am not a "yellow" person..though i should be. When I wear pastel yellows I get so many compliments.

I had a red car all throught college and OD'd on red! LOL!

The yellow is diffferent for this year...I really liked the old yellow.

Maybe that is what a fem drives? A mini...HA! So cute!

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