Commitment Rings

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Commitment Rings
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Sat, 07-28-2007 - 7:58pm

I thought this would be an interesting discussion! How do you feel about gay couples wearing rings? Is this a trapping of heterosexual life? If you are in a relationship do you and your partner wear rings?

Was there a proposal? A mutual agreement? Did it signify a deeper legal or emotional unity in your relationship?

If you are single do you want to exchange rings when the right woman comes along? Why or why not?

Shannon




Edited 7/28/2007 8:07 pm ET by irishowl
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In reply to: irishowl
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 8:06pm

My answers.............

I have some lesbian friends who see commitment rings as something for "straight" couples only. But, Shelley and I have worn rings for a long time. Early in our relationship we knew we would be together for the rest of our lives. We knew at some point there would be a legal commitment to each other. Shelley was very upfront with me that she wanted to propose to me someday. When the time was right she wanted me to select my ring because she felt like I should chose what I will wear for the rest of my life. I selected a sapphire and diamond ring set in platinum. She told me I could chose her ring on my own, that she trusted my taste and judgement. Anyway, after the ring was purchased she proposed to me and we've always called this my engayment ring. :lol: A month later I found the perfect ring for her ( sapphire and diamonds set into the band so the top is smooth) and proposed back........LOL.
Our rings did symbolize a deeper commitment,we became domestic partners 4 months later. We had planned to go to Canada and get married after we got engayed, but decided to wait to have a ceremony. We will someday when gay marriage is legal in this state.

Our rings are special to us not only because of what it symbolizes to us but also because it's our small way of saying to the world..........we are married, we are one.

Shannon

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In reply to: irishowl
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 8:11pm

I think rings are like labels. If they are important to you and your partner, then you should have them. If you do not feel that you need an outward showing of your commitment, then you don't need them. M only wore her wedding rings periodically, because she felt that way.

You know how I felt about taking off my rings, but once they were off, I was fine with the whole thing. I am wearing one of them right now, so as not to alarm dd. I think I will slip it off tonight.

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FgpBlue

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In reply to: irishowl
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 8:34pm
I am all for wearing symbols of your commitment. I don't know that I'm quite cut out for feminine rings, though... I have Norwegian fingers (short and a bit "fat") so rings look kinda funny on 'em. But I do like the idea of a necklace with a ring on it or something like that. And I would definitely want to give my future girlfriend/wife/life partner jewelry if she would wear it. Plus, it's just another excuse to gush about being in love in case anyone asks about it :D
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In reply to: irishowl
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 10:13pm
Lisa and I wear rings; plain stainless steel bands that she chose and had engraved on the inside.
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In reply to: irishowl
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 11:37pm

Storm, your ring is awesome. Some day a toaster will be officially presented to you. lol

I got your email and I have been thinking about your request. I will email you soon. Time and other things have not been on my side.

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FgpBlue

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In reply to: irishowl
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 11:40pm
No worries Blue...I totally understand.
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Sat, 07-28-2007 - 11:45pm

Babe, you are up kind of late. You all right?

Blue

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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 1:31am
Sheila and I wear matching diamond bands. And we each have matching Rainbow rings too.
She wanted us to have them and I like us to have them too.
I used to joke aboujt the rings being a circle symbolizing a connection going 'round and 'round and never really getting anywhere. I don't talk about it like that anymore though.
Now I see them as marking your territory when you are apart. I am not able to be here right now, but "She's taken, hands off"!
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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 8:48am

Shannon, what an awesome question!


I don't think its a trapping of heterosexual life,(if it was, why would most of us want to be able to be legally married at all then?)

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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 8:55am

LOL Storm!


I never knew Lesbians wore Silver jewelry.

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