Commitment Rings

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Commitment Rings
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Sat, 07-28-2007 - 7:58pm

I thought this would be an interesting discussion! How do you feel about gay couples wearing rings? Is this a trapping of heterosexual life? If you are in a relationship do you and your partner wear rings?

Was there a proposal? A mutual agreement? Did it signify a deeper legal or emotional unity in your relationship?

If you are single do you want to exchange rings when the right woman comes along? Why or why not?

Shannon




Edited 7/28/2007 8:07 pm ET by irishowl
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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:28am

"Now I see them as marking your territory when you are apart. I am not able to be here right now, but "She's taken, hands off"!

tooo funny Laurie! lol! Does it work?

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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 12:19pm
I was up very late (early rather).
Spring SiggyBlinkie
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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 12:19pm
I don't know... I am never there...
It better though or someone is out on the curb...
and it is not going to be me! Lol.
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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 5:49pm

Hi Shannon,

I look at committment rings as a part of anyone's committment to each other. I don't think that rings are exclusively for heteros. I think wedding rings are a symbol of committment between the two people that are wearing them. From the obsenly(sp)expensive, lol! To the very simple and inexpensive. A wedding ring/committment ring is a symbol of a partner's undying and eternal love. Of course, that's what it's supposed to be, right? Aside from all of the political and religious attachments, that action has a deeper response.

I'm a bit of a traditionalist, I would take my potential partner out to dinner, or out for a stroll to where we met, I will bend down (as best as I can)on one knee, and propose. :)

Exchanging rings with a woman that I've dated for at least a year or two, would have to be somthing that has to be mutually agreed upon. For me, putting a ring on a woman's finger means more than what the law or what dogma can ever dictate to me.

I take something like putting a ring on a woman's finger very seriously, that rates up there with having sex with a woman, once I do, we are definately bound to each other, on all levels.

Excellent topic!

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Sebastian

 


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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 6:08pm

Nothing wrong with being a little traditional! When I asked Shelley why it was so important for her to propose to me her answer was "because I'm the butch".........:lol: Oy! How did we slip into traditional gender roles? :lol:

Shannon

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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 8:01pm

Hi Shannon,

Wouldn't it be interesting if the femmes (not that I really get into role playing)proposed to the butches? LOL!

I don't want to insult your intelligence, and I'm not that old, but from what I remember back in the 50's the young ladies would ask the young gentlemen to go the school dance. <----- Sadie Hawkins But anyway, I just thought I'd bring that up.

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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 8:39pm

My high school had a Sadie Hawkins dance once. I wanted to ask a really adorable butch girl from the softball team ( yep she was already out )but I didn't have the guts and I figured the school would have an issue! :lol: Plus my Mom taught at my high school and I sure as heck wasn't about ready to come out! :lol:

I don't know that I consider myself femme (somewhere between femme and androgynous is probably a better description) but I did propose to her when I gave her the ring I had gotten her. Shelley just got to do it first, but that's what she wanted.

Maybe schools need a gay Sadie Hawkins and the femme's can ask the butches out......:lol:

Shannon

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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:10pm

I see you get why I posted the thread about taking my wedding rings off. If the committment was that deep then the removal of the committment, both symbolic and real, is not to be taken lightly.

I had my ring on when I arrived at dd's, and took it off this morning. No comments from anybody. Perhaps they have not noticed as both have not been feeling well.

They are downstairs watching "Running With Scissors." This is a freakin' weird movie where, among other things, the mom and the son are both gay, or at least think that they are. That is not the weird part. Have you seen it?

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In reply to: irishowl
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:31pm
I havaen't worn my wedding bands in about two years. Of course my reason was that I would scratch accidentally my baby with the ring. Which i did do accidentally once. I rarely put them back on. Typically, functional purposes (ie wedding or other family event) and just as quickly them come back off again. I laugh at silver jewellery being a symbol. I don't wear very much jewellery, never did. The jewellery i liked was usually silver. Even as i type i am wearing silver toned earings and that's it for jewellery. Oh ya and my medical alert braclet, i never wanted the gold braclet. Now i know why. :}
GnS
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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 11:45pm

I have an awful time getting my wedding band off. I need the soap and put my hand in cold water.

I wear mostly gold earrings, but I have a slew of silver ones. They seem much heavier than the gold. I am looking for a pair of silver ankh earrings right now that would be right for me. I have 10 peircings, but usually wear small, tasteful(at least to me) ones.

I wear 4 silver bracelets that I rarely take off. One is from the first time I went to a gay bar in Rehobeth, DE, the second is from one of my best friends whom I came out to. She gave it too me when I was experiencing something awful. The third is from when four friends from work went to Rehobeth for a ladies weekend, and the last is a matching one to somebody I was once in love with. It is the last thing that I own about her that I have not put away

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