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Commitment Rings
| Sat, 07-28-2007 - 7:58pm |
I thought this would be an interesting discussion! How do you feel about gay couples wearing rings? Is this a trapping of heterosexual life? If you are in a relationship do you and your partner wear rings?
Was there a proposal? A mutual agreement? Did it signify a deeper legal or emotional unity in your relationship?
If you are single do you want to exchange rings when the right woman comes along? Why or why not?
Shannon
Edited 7/28/2007 8:07 pm ET by irishowl


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You are right! This is for me and nobody else. For a change, I am going to keep something of myself to have forever. This is NOT how it relates to other people, this is not about external things, this is my heart. This is who I am. I am as ready as I will ever be. I'm ready to be me........long time coming.
Thanks, sister.
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Blue
Whoa, bro. I am not sure what you are talking about. I did not take anything you said negatively. I feel that this Board is about dialogue. If you got the impression that I was offended, self conscious, or angry, you were wrong. I value your opinion and take a look at what everybody has to say. If I ever respond contrary to what you write, it will be for one of two reasons. It will be to share a differing view or I will speak from my own heart. Even if I disagree with my heart, your opinion is no less valid than mine.
I examine who I am and what I am doing every day. I can't excape it. I need to hear it all.
Anyhow, you and I co-exist peacefully on this planet. :)
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Blue
Blue,
When I came out I had a bit of backlash from my Mom. She kept telling me I had changed, that the daughter she had raised was dead. I remember crying to Shelley because I was so upset. What she said to me is something I will always remember.......you haven't changed, this is who you have always been. And it was true.
Just before I came out I bought a copy of O Magazine (Oprah's mag), I've never bought a copy before or since then. But, I felt compelled to buy it. Inside was an excerpt from a poem that perfectly summed up how I was feeling. That page has resided on my fridge ever since,it is something I will always keep.
Excerpt from "Sweet Darkness" by David Whyte
When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also
When your vision is gone
no part of the world can find you
Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.
There you can be sure you are not beyond love.........
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneless
to learn
anything or anyone that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.
Hugs,
Shannon
This is a very good question. Caly answered for us, and I agree with everything she said. I don't look at the rings as a symbol of "I'm taken" but as a commitment to the love we share.
Your rings sound beautiful, BTW!
Shannon,
I just had to respond to this. First, I'm really sorry about what your mom said to you. I'm sure that was
Thanks Ting! I'm fairly partial to it. Poor Shelley made a big mistake, she took me to a jewlery store and told me I had no spending limit, that I could have any ring I wanted.........big mistake! :lol: I love jewlery and my tastes can be a bit expensive. I'll post a pic from the jewlers website with my other photos on the lesbian life group page.
Aside from my ring the other piece of jewlery Shelley gave me that means alot is my clauddagh braclet. She found a jewler's website who is in Ireland and ordered us matching silver clauddagh braclets right after I moved it. I was very touched because she knows how much my Irish heritage means to me.
Shannon
I'm glad you like the poem, it's one of my favorites. That was just an excerpt, but I'm sure you can find the whole thing on the net. Things are slowly getting better between my Mom and I, although we'll never have the same relationship we did before I came out. She hurt me too badly for me to ever let all my walls down with her, which is a shame. But, my Mom has alot of issues.
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Shannon
Oh, my, Shannon. That is just wonderful. It's me. Thank you. I think that is how I am right now. I am going to search the net for the rest of the poem.
I am so sorry about the way your mom treated you. Nobody deserves that.
I am sitting in the living room of my dd's house just desperate to tell her, but I can't. She has gone through my iTunes playlist, but hasn't said anything about all the "lesbian music." I was so hoping she would have asked. She is home sick with strep throat.
Thanks so much for the poem.
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Blue
{{{Blue}}} I'm so glad that it touched you the way it touched me. Your daughter may need a more direct hint. When I was 19 my Mom caught me making out in the house with my 1st girlfriend Rajean.Hot and heavy making out. She walked right past us, and I KNOW she saw us. But, she chose to ignore it and be in denial. The only other hint my Mom had was that when I was 6 I glued my barbie dolls together.........:lol:
Shannon
ROFLMAO Oh, my god that is toooo funny. I am actually laughing out loud. Glued your Barbies together. I shoulda thought of that! I just never played with mine. I disliked every minute of having her. My sister on the other hand....... enough said about Barbie.
I was just such a jock. Still am. My straight girlfriends(we raised our kids together) really tried to get me to do the whole make-up, purse, dress, thing, but it's not me. I do wear make-up almost every day. Just a soft butch. Never dated boys, or girls for that matter. Well, couple of boys. I always thought they were just great to have as buds. Still think that way. lol
Thanks for the laughs. I need them today!
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Blue
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