Commitment Rings

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Commitment Rings
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Sat, 07-28-2007 - 7:58pm

I thought this would be an interesting discussion! How do you feel about gay couples wearing rings? Is this a trapping of heterosexual life? If you are in a relationship do you and your partner wear rings?

Was there a proposal? A mutual agreement? Did it signify a deeper legal or emotional unity in your relationship?

If you are single do you want to exchange rings when the right woman comes along? Why or why not?

Shannon




Edited 7/28/2007 8:07 pm ET by irishowl
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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 6:03pm

One of the things I told people when I came out (and its so very true) is that being a Lesbian is only PART of who I am.

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 6:09pm

Shannon sounds like your Mom is much like mine.

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 6:28pm

My Mom at first said she would be supportive. Then, I moved in with Shelley and she was still telling me it was ok. I then found out she was giving info to my ex husband whom I was in the middle of a very bitter divorce with. It was such a slap in the face, I felt like someone knocked the wind out of me. After that we didn't speak for months and months at a time. It's only been in the last few months that we can talk and not end up fighting. I don't tell her much about my life with Shelley and she doesn't ask. I can't trust her with my feelings. We talk about my work, school, our pets........friendly chit chat that doesn't mean much. I know she loves me, and I know she regrets her behavior. I've forgiven her, but I haven't forgotten what she did to me.

Shannon

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 6:33pm

When I was a little girl I was soooooooooo femme. I loved makeup, baby dolls, dresses, etc. I got to about 20 and I stopped wearing makeup. I wear it now about three times a year, special occasions only. I still like dresses and I love the oppurtunity to wear one when it arises. I guess I'm slight femme, if I had to put myself into a box. At work I wear scrubs every day with a naked face. When I'm not at work I like jeans and t shirts, sandals, no makeup, short hair.

I always had guy friends. My oldest friend is a guy, we've been best friends since we were 9 years old. When I got married he was my man of honor at my wedding and threatened to murder my ex H if he ever hurt me.........:lol:

Shannon

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 10:34pm

Yeah, babe. it's like being left handed. Just a little bit different from most people, but it's not all who I am. If I had been born left handed 200 or more years ago, I would have had to hide that, too. I'm still the same teacher, mom, etc. just like you said. Although, I am really proud that I am left handed and I shouldn't be, 'cause I had nothing to do with it. It's just a part of me. Bear with me, though, because it is only recently that I have even been able to utter the words "I'm gay," or "I'm lesbian" out loud. The newness of my life is still fresh on my skin.

The problem IS with whom I sleep. There will be all kinds of repercussions on a personal level. I'm ready, Caly. Scared crapless, but ready.

Missed talking to you. Got the time thing screwed up, which is not like me. Talk to you tomorrow.

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Blue

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 10:44pm

I like dresses on certain occasions, but I would really like to wear a tux. They have some great ones for women. At my age, the make up helps to even out my face. I never wear eye make up, because in my job I keep having to wipe my eyes, so what's the point.

In the beginning of my teaching, we had to wear kilts to teach PE and then change into dress and stockings for the health classrooms. Then we could wear pants for the classroom. That was a godsend. The kilts went out sometime and then we wore warmups(even in the classroom) in the cold months, shorts in the warm months. I ALWAYS change into dress casual for the classroom, so I look like all the other teachers. It is a subtle message to the other faculty members that I am just as knowledgeable, committed, professional, and dedicated as they are. My principals were at first shocked when they saw that I changed for the classroom from the gym. It is a pain, though. I did not wear a dress to teach in one day last year!

I'm going to Cheyenne tomorrow morning. I think I am going to look for a leather jacket. I need one to complete me!

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Blue

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 10:57pm

Cheyenne Wyoming? I have bad memories from there!

Shelley and I started dating the week before my soon to be ex H and I were to drive cross country to see my family in VT. This was the big trip where I came out to my family and when I returned I came out to my ex H and left him.......oy what a horrible 3 weeks that was. It was sooooooo hard to leave her for this trip, she literally begged me not to go. So, the first night we check into a motel in Wyoming. I go for a walk and call Shelley, bawling hysterically. I can't be away from her, screw my family they'll understand. She convinced me I needed to take the trip, to see my family. It took everything in her power not to drive all night and come get me and it took everything in my power not to beg her to come get me.

I hope you find an awesome jacket! I didn't get to explore at all, just passed through.

Shannon

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 11:02pm

I'm gonna have a nice day all by myself. I am taking the trolley around, visiting the museum, touring the capitol building, and just seeing what kind of mischief I can get into.

How you feeling tonight?

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Blue

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 11:30pm

I'm not feeling great today. I've had alot of pain, I had alot last night too. It's funny how hard the simpliest tasks are. Shaving my legs was soooo hard and soooo painful. I've been trying all day to talk Shell into painting my toe nails for me, at least on the right leg. She hates feet with a passion, so she won't do it! Darn! I don't think I can. Would you like to come over and do my toe nails? :lol:

I also got a 9:30am call from the nursing supervisor this morning. Despite the fact that I have spoken to both of the assistant nurse managers on my unit this week and even faxed my Dr's note, they still had me on the schedule for this morning. The nursing sup was calling to ask why I didn't show up for my shift....oy!

Shannon

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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:31am

Sorry, babe. It really sucks. Not only that, but you do all the right things, and then you feel kind of, I don't know, guilty about not being there. There's that accusatory, "Where are you?" Yep, I know the feeling.

I show a movie about ACL tears. The girl tore it during soccer. The movie shows the doc actually pulling the patellar tendon out of the front of the knee and using it to repair the ACL. It is an awesome flick. When they thought I might have done that, they told me I could have a cadaver tendon, also. I opted for patellar before I went under. Turns out it was only menicus.

My nerves are a little shot tonight and I am doing something I rarely do, and that is take a tiny Xanax. Just a half and this is what I have them for. It's getting closer and closer.

Take care of yourself. You really need to be moving and keeping the rest of you going during the day.

I would love to come and do your toes, btw. I shave legs, too. Are you flirting with me???? Why do you only want the right leg done??? lol

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Blue

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