Girlfriends and Parents

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Girlfriends and Parents
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 8:10am
Do your parents like your girlfriend?

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 9:11am

Both of my parents have passed and since I did not come out until after their death, it was never an issue...obviously!! My gf father passed 6 months after my mother so she just has her mom left. My gf mom tolerates me at best..she tries but deep down I know she despises me and our relationship! We have good days and bad ones...right now we are on a really bad run! My gf has not spoken to her mom for over a month ( at her moms request)!

Its really, really sad! Since I dont have my parents and my family lives over 900 miles away, it kills me to see her going through this with her family and they live only about 10 minutes from us! :-(

Daronda

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 2:09pm

Welcome, kaylasgal! I don't remember seeing you on the board before.


That's a great question. My parents like Caly a lot. They have accepted her from the first

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 6:42pm

Kaylasgal, welcome.

No real girlfriend, yet. Maybe. My mom will be fine. My dad doesn't even know I'm gay. My mom says not to tell him. They are divorced and mom lives in SC and dad lives in OH.

Hugs

Blue

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 7:50pm

I guess I can answer your question 2 ways.

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Registered: 08-03-2006
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:23pm

Kayla’s parents absolutely love me. They treat me like one of the family.

My parents have hated Kayla ever since they found out we were 'together' a little over a year ago. At this point they tolerate her, but that is about it. I feel really bad for Kayla because I know how wonderful it is to be loved by my girlfriend's parents. I can talk to her mom about anything.

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Registered: 08-03-2006
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:28pm
Do you think your parents will ever be accepting of you two as a couple? I keep hoping one day my parents will be more open and accepting of Kayla. They used to really like her before they found out we were a couple. She says it is OK, but I know it bothers her to no end.
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Registered: 04-08-2007
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:36pm

My Dad is deceased,so he never met my partner. He would adore her though if he were still alive. She is so much like him it scares me! They would have alot of fun together. My Mom has never met my partner, she lives in another state. She and I have had months and months of estrangment for the last few years, on and off depending on her attitude. Sometimes she makes snotty comments and other times she's ok. She has told me that she is envious of my relationship because I seem so happy and she wishes she had someone that makes her happy.

Shelley's Dad is deceased, I never met him. Her step father adores me. Although, he has dementia and lives in a skilled nursing facility.He knows that we are friends and that's about all he can remember. He also thinks I am his private duty nurse because I always go down when he is sick to make sure they are watching over him because he gets so sick. Shelley's Mom likes me about as much as she likes anyone I guess. She doesn't like people, doesn't trust people and has nothing good to say about anyone. In March I had surgery and she called me 2 days after surgery at 10pm, Shelley was at work. She wanted to go see her husband at the facility because he was sick.So, I drove her down there, with a belly full of sutures and she never even said thank you........:lol:

Shelley's Mom does 1 thing that drives me nuts! Shelley was married VERY briefly when she was 18 years old. She is now 41 but her Mom still refers to this guy as her husband.....lord! Funny thing is, Shelley is with a woman and her ex H has been with another man for years. He came out shortly after Shelley did..........hahhahahaha

Shannon

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 7:16am

Unfortunately Kayla, I think this is as good as it is going to get with my Parents.

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:57am

You said, "How long have your parents known about you and your gf?"

My parents have known about us for slightly over a year now. Things have actually gotten much better since they first found out. Their first reaction was to send me into a youth counseling program run through our church. They let me quit after about three months though. Thankfully that part of my life is over.

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 6:39pm
Give them so more time then.

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