Did something happen to make you gay?

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Did something happen to make you gay?
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 12:13pm

Disclaimer..........This is what happens when I have too much time on my hands. :lol:

Nothing happened to me that "made me gay", this is who I was born to be. I didn't know what it was, but I knew I was differant around 11 years old. I was 13 or 14 when I heard the word lesbian, knew what it was and knew that was what I am.
When I was 18 I was assaulted by a male friend my first semester at college. It's taken me a while to deal with it, but I'm ok. I've gone to many Take Back the Night events and even spoken at a few. I'm not ashamed of what happened to me, because I'm not responsible for what happened to me. However, I have a very dear friend whose name is Ruth. She and I have been friends for about 9 years now. She is totally convinced that what happened to me made me gay. Despite the fact that I already knew I was a lesbian before I was assaulted. She believes I had "homosexual tendencies" and that being assaulted cemented it. She thinks that if that had not happened that perhaps I would have been straight.........oy! She means well, she's extremely religious. I know she sounds ignorant, but she is a major pillar of support in my life and she loves me dearly. I think she is still trying to grasp that people are born this way, because everything she has ever been taught in the church tells her this is a choice to sin. She doesn't understand it but she is 100% supportive of my life. She's even told me that Shelley and I have shown her that gay people are like everyone else and that we have normal lives.

So, my question is do your friends or family believe that something happened to make you gay? Do you think traumatic events can make someone gay? Do you think we are born gay?

ETA: I do believe that people are born gay. I do not believe that traumatic events can alter someone's sexuality. I personally believe that it is determined in utero.

Shannon




Edited 8/1/2007 1:47 pm ET by irishowl
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 10:06pm
Great answer...best one yet...well, except for the seafood one.
Spring SiggyBlinkie
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 10:17pm

Now I know what to tell my friend the next time she shares her theory with me! :lol: I LOVE seafood, I never met a fish or a shell fish I didn't love!

Shannon

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Sat, 08-04-2007 - 12:20am

Rogue, are you making fun of me???? ;)

If you are, it's cute and brought a smile to my face. If you are not, you should be.

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Blue

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Sat, 08-04-2007 - 12:21am

See, it is all aboug being left handed, ltr. There you go Rogue!

Thanks for the back up, babe.

Blue

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Sat, 08-04-2007 - 12:22am

That's my girl!

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Blue

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 8:38am

I love this question...love the answers even more! You guys are all so great!

Daronda

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:46pm

Thanks, T!

BTW, What’s a hard, long workout? *innocent smile*

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:48pm
21) ahh, the mystery just begun. What kind of seafood or is it seefood??? If it’s seafood, which one? Lobster, shrimp, crabs, oyster??? I hope it’s the lobsters, cause that’s my entree for this summer. *l*
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:50pm

blue, I might have fun with you but never make fun of you. *smile*

I'm lost on which post you think i'm making fun of you. *l*

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:51pm
no, no blue…see Storm’s post…it’s about the seafood!