Medical care and your partner..........
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| Wed, 08-15-2007 - 12:07pm |
Shelley is going to the hospital tommorow for her sacro illiac injections for her back pain, it's just day surgery. This morning I'm gathering up paperwork to go with us.........copy of our domestic partnership decree with official state seal and her medical power of attorney. Shelley always thinks I'm so paranoid doing this anytime one of us has surgery, she thinks the Dr's will just allow one of us to speak for the other without question in an emergency. That's very true, they might.......but I never want one of us to be in a life or death position and for the other to be helpless.
And I do this every time, even though they have it in our charts that we are spouses........I just want to cover us. We both work in health care, I know how things get lost, or overlooked.
What bothers me is when I straight married couple go through something like this, they don't have to "prove" their relationship. If they say they are married, then they are......period. But, because we are gay we have to prove it. It's very sad.
Shannon


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Oh Shannon, you have hit a very raw nerve with me.
Easy there, my friend. We need you on the team, not exploding all over the place. One day, I know we will be kicking some major butt, or at the very least be equal. I'd like more than equal for awhile, just to make up for lost time, but that wouldn't be fair for anybody who was an ally today.
Hugs
Sue
Geez, if something happened to me right now, my dh would have the final say. THAT is somewhat of a troubling thought seeing the state of my marriage right now. I guess I made this bed and I gotta be careful while I am in it.
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Sue
Oh, my, your MOTHER!??!? Sorry about that. I do feel your pain, though. God, your mom......
Sue
Hugs,
Laurie
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I could leave a note... "This mess you see before you is due to unfair ignorance."
Guess I'll just calm down and do something about it, lol.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Awww Caly, I can't even imagine. I think that is the fear that keeps us in this state, even though we both want to leave. We have alot of rights here and don't want to lose them, especially since we are going to have kids together.
When I left my husband(as in we were legally seperated) I had my medical power of attorney drawn up giving Shelley the right to make choices for me. I was terrified that it would be either my soon to be ex husband or my Mom making decisions for me if something happened.
I always take our paperwork with us. We went on a cruise last year and it all came with us, just in case.
I think it's a raw nerve with all of us, it's so unfair and so stressful to think about.
Hugs,
Shannon
You have a list???
I’m on the list?
You mean I’m not THE ONE???! ;-)
Well, I just have to work harder to knock all those lovely ladies off that list of yours. *L*
Let see first on the list...
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