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| Thu, 08-16-2007 - 7:09am |
Morning ALL!
Once again Shannon gave me some food to for thought.
| Thu, 08-16-2007 - 7:09am |
Morning ALL!
Once again Shannon gave me some food to for thought.
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G'moring Caly, Ya know, I even though I enjoy the other topics and threads that you post, I really look forward to Thursday topics. Today is no exception.
Health and Sex.
I have at least two doctors. One that prescribes my testosterone and cares about my general health, and another that cares about my general health, and checks on my orthopedics. Well, for one, every medical practioner that I encounter, that's the first thing I do, I come out to them. Sometimes I get a mixed reaction and sometimes I get relaxed acceptance. When the subject of stds come up, I know that I can look at him and say, "No doc, I've never been infected with anything". My doctor then, to my amusement looks at his clipboard again and says, "You're a 42yr old man, and you've never had sex?"
I smile at him serenely, and say, "Of course, I've had sex. I'm just very careful." Internally, I was just really laughing so hard.
Ok ladies, if you don't want to read any further, I won't take offense if you don't. My idea of safe sex is using condoms, and dental dams. Also talking, and being honest about how many partner's you had BEFORE you make your body vulnerable to that hot honey.
Of course, there are ways of having safe sex without coming into contact with bodily fluids. Dry humping, just plaining old necking, mutual self-pleasuring or masturbation, and a sensuous massge that ends in dry humping. Of course, there are many different methods, but that would take all day to list.
But of course, when you meet someone for the first time....wellll, lol! But caution should be the word that is flashing through a person's mind when moving onto the sexual side of a relationship.
Anyway, all that I've just shared is my opinion,
Thanks,
Sebastian
Edited 8/16/2007 6:24 pm ET by igentleheart
Hugs,
Sebastian
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Hey Caly, good questions!
Shelley and I are both out to our primary Dr and we are both her patients. She is such a good Dr and so good to us. She treats me as Shelley's spouse, which I am but it's nice anyway. A few months ago her husband was a patient on my unit with some heart rhythm issues and it was nice to care for him, repay the favor I guess. I wish they could all be as good as my Dr, she is a true credit to her profession.
I'm out to my ob/gyn and she's met Shelley because we went in to talk about my past infertility issues and what she thought would be the best course of action for us with trying to concieve. She's great also, she has alot of lesbian patients and from what I've seen in the waiting room several are pregnant. It's nice to see much older lesbians pregnant too, gives me hope that I still have plenty of time.
STD's.........I have to say that it's not something I think about now in a long term relationship. Even when I was younger I was pretty careful and choisy who I was intimate with. I've been tested for HIV because I've been exposed to a patients blood at work, the patient was HIV neg and I've always tested that way. My main health concerns are losing weight and getting pregnant, and they are tied together hand in hand. So, I'll keep working on that.......
Shannon
Hey Seb!
Thank you as always for your input.
Your welcome, Caly. I think I'm an advocate of sharing the most precious thing that anyone can share with anyone else: thier body. But with sharing thier body, I feel as though it should be protected, no matter what.
Even though there are a lot of sexually illiterate people in the world, that doesn't mean that I have to be one of them. Educating myself on how to protect myself means knowing all about how to stay safe, sexually.
Thanks,
Sebastian
Hugs,
Sebastian
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Hey Shannon!
Thank for your reply.
WEll, this was interesting. I came out to my family doctor(a woman because that is one of my prerequisites) in March. She also treats dh. She prescribed some meds for me. Dh asked for a list of the people that I had told and of course I mentioned her. He was pissed because he had been to see her between then and last Friday. I mentioned the whole confidentiality thing. I told my gyn AND it was the first time I had ever checked off the box as having sex with same gendered partners. She told me that if I was happy "that" way, she was okay with it. I did not tell the cyst removal doc or the eye doc, because I don't see any correlation at the present time. BTW, dh has outed me to everybody he could find at work, his friends, I'm damned surprsied he hasn't put up a billboard on the PA Turnpike with my pic.
Safe sex, yeah, I preach it, but have been a little remiss this summer. I trusted everybody involved on a gut level, but I can hear y'all yelling at me. Sorreeee, the whole dental dam thing, etc, just didn't work out as a very few of you know THAT story. Also, somebody posted here that they didn't know any lesbians who ever used one. Since I am not the expert in that area, I'll leave that to those of you who are more versed than me. I do know that after mutually monogamous heterosexual couples, the next least likely sexual pairings that transmit diseases are lesbians.
Other issues? I desperately need a colonoscopy. Timimg issues here. And I am deathly afraid of dropping dead of an aneurysm. I know it is wacko and far fetched, but unless I die in a fiery car crash(totally could happen), it is my craziest health fear. No control there, that is the problem.
Good thread
Hugs
Sue
Hey Sue!
Actually dropping dead of an aneurysm is one of my fears as well LOL. I am not afraid of death but I am deathly afraid of dying, especially alone, but thats not the direction I want to take this thread so enough said.
Anyway, I do agree about no need to tell anyone, to which the information is not relevant. I saw no need to tell my eye doctor for instance hehe.
I've never used a dental dam and honestly I never will.............LOL How's that for brayzen? Again it's a matter of knowing someone, talking about their history and just going with your gut. I have never had sex with someone that I hadn't had "the talk" with...........history etc. I would rather have that talk ahead of time than to whip out my dental dam. BUT, I have a drawer full of condoms........LOL How can I put this delicately? Wrap up your toys......other wise they can harbor bacteria. It's also a good idea to run them through the dishwasher from time to time........unless they have batteries or electrical cords.
Sue...............do your colonoscopy!
Shannon
I've had a small handful of exposures at work, it comes with the territory. Most of my patients are older people, married for a bazillion years so the HIV risk is low. Anytime an exposure happens the patient is asked to consent to blood testing for HIV, Hepatitis, etc. They run the labs STAT because you have to make the choice to take post exposure prophylatic HIV anti viral meds.........but the side effects can be brutal. I've never chosen to take them because the patient labs have always come up negative. Then you get tested at 6 months and 1 year post exposure.
I don't think I work with a single person who hasn't been through this at least once or twice........
Shannon
OMG! I was so cracking up at this. I have been on the PA turnpike being from Youngstown, Ohio originally.
Oh so funny blue!
Hugs,
Laurie
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