Rite of Passage

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Rite of Passage
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 9:12pm

So what's a dyke to do when she has very few lesbian friends? I met a woman at the LGBT center here and she invited me to go to the city yesterday to a lesbian bar. Now when I say the city-I mean San Francisco-gayest city in the world. It's a 45 minute drive from here. At first I said yes, but yesterday I was wavering.

I was talking to my friend on the phone and she was trying to convince me to go, when who should call but our other baby dyke-Blue. (sorry if you don't consider yourself that anymore-I'm sure you'll correct me if need be). Anyway-I had told her I was considering not going-and she called to kick my butt into gear. She gave me to courage and I did it.

Now, it was quite the experience. This place was in the heart of the Castro district-gayest district in the world. We had dinner first-there were 5 of us. I met the kind of lesbian I knew I would come across one day-and I met her on my first night on the town. She was nice at first, but later referred to me as bisexual-and not in a nice way. Now, I will not get into that debate here and now, and am not bashing people who consider themselves bisexual. But I knew it was coming. I knew that at some point I would be judged for being married. But I held my own with her and I got over it. But you know-damn her or anybody for judging me and my journey. Does she know the hell I've been through? But I digress.

Anyway-I had lots of fun. I have not danced like that in years. My sides hurt today. There were some hoochy-mamas dancing on the pool tables and they did nothing for me. There were lots of women stuffing $ in their g-strings. But not my thing. I did see lots of gorgeous women though, and all the energy was just great. I was exhausted when I got home.

Today I went to a gay-friendly church with my lesbian couple friends and really enjoyed the service. The pastor is gay and a riot. Afterwards the women took me to lunch and gave me a tutorial in many things lesbian. I've so much to learn (Blue-we'll chat later).

Can you believe my first evening out and at the Castro? Should I tap my ruby slippers together now and say "there's no place like home"? I swear this is a dream. But alas, it is not and I'm glad-exhausted, but glad.

Thanks for being great lesbians everyone-and thanks for letting me come into my own with all of you.

Hugs,

Amy

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:48am

Yeah-being a lesbian is about more than just sex, but some sex would be nice :-}

Hugs,

Amy

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:51am

Hi Sebastian. You probably would decide to stay, because it's an awesome place if you like a city. Or you could settle into an outlying city and just be close enough to hang out when needed.

Thanks!

Hugs,

Amy

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:54am

Hi Ting. It's hard to put yourself out there, but it does get easier. I definitely know I'm going to need that support not just when dealing with the dh, but soon will be coming out to my family and need my other "family" when that comes.

I'm sure I'll meet lots of other people with lots of opinions along the road and I'll just have to develop a thick skin!

Hugs,

Amy

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:56am

Hi ML. Hope it doesn't scare you about getting out there. This woman was actually nice to me in a lot of other ways and it turned out okay.

How many boxes can we be in? Sometimes we need the boxes and labels, sometimes it's so damn annoying!

Hugs,

Amy

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 11:00am

Hi Sheila. yeah-that city is a blast. Glad you got to come out and experience it.

You know, a woman can leave you for any reason, is it worse if it's for another woman, a man, or any other reason? It still hurts.

Hugs,

Amy

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 11:13am
True, I know now it was my own insecurities.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:09pm

You are sounding more and more confident in your posts and are giving really sage advice to others. I applaud and admire your courage and strength.


You go girl!


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Registered: 05-20-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 11:26pm

Thanks Ting. I hope I can give back just a little of what's been given to me.

Hugs,

Amy

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:15am

Amy....what a great story. Thanks for sharing it.

Hugs

Roxy

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