I Live A Reality Show

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I Live A Reality Show
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:05pm

The big day, as you know was, Friday a week ago and the weekend was just horrific and yet it was great. A weight has been lifted from me. I was so worried about my ds. He is speaking to me and cares a great deal. He is out in CO with dd and I am sure they are doing what they need to do to come to grips with a lesbian mom and the changing of the family as they know it.

Since then, the whole family knows, my dh outed me to his entire worksstaff AND all of our couple friends that were originally his friends. My family is good, his is not, but they are not that bad either. My mother in law told everybody that "she has known for years." She's always like that and always will be, so I just let those things tug at me for the moment and then move on.

I have come out to all of my bosses and the last one is kind of where I am with her own husband, without the lesbian thing, I think. We have lots in common. She is about my age and is experiencing similar things like she loves her husband, but is not IN love with him. She asked me what I told my husband and we spent an hour in her office BSing.

My dh came home today and told me he had taken wire cutters and removed his wedding band, his mom wants my wedding band back and she is entitled to it, but it feels bad, and he is talking about getting an apartment as soon as we sell the Florida home, possibly in about 4 months. I would, of course, be responsible for "not my damn dog" until my ds can take him. I would need help for this.

This is really hard as many of you have said. There is not much community here, but I have made some pretty good contacts and will keep going. It's going a little faster than I had anticipated. Dh is the driving force. I guess in my head I thought this would all play itself completely out after I had retired, but it looks like other forces will be intervening.

Goddess love all my friends who have been checking up on me, some of you here at the board, either by phone, email, or postings. I am sad right now, but I think that is to be expected as you move through these kinds of events.

Many hugs all around

Blue Sue

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:22pm

I just wanted to offer you more hugs, I know how hard a time this is for you. I'm thinking good thoughts for you always!

Shannon

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:27pm

Shannon,
You are the best. You have been such a great support all week long.
I can't wait to go back to San Fran....... give me today

Sue

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:35pm

HI BLUE
I see you're on right now and thought I would give a shout out and say this too shall pass and let you know we are all in this together one way or another. You are strong and I know it will all turn out great. One day at a time, right? Hang in, your happiness is worth it!

michelle

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:42pm
(((((Sue))))), I am thinking of you...
Hugs,
Laurie
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:14pm

((((((Sue))))))))


Many hugs as always.

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:17pm

Thanks, Michelle. I think I would like you to just take my place for awhile. I mean, since we are all in this together, you'd do that for a sister, right? Just make the good decisions!
I want to go to a nice, warm sunny area outside of the US, where nobody knows my name, they speak very little English, and a good woman at my side(or wherever lol). Thanks for the props on the strength, but it ain't always what it's cracked up to be.

Speaking of strength, I need to go lift. Back after awhile.

Sue

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:19pm

Thanks, Laurie, always appreciated.

Sue

You haven't posted on your family in awhile. All is good, I am hoping.

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:19pm
{{{{{Sue}}}}}
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:21pm

Okay, mom, I'll do that tomorrow afternoon after my tech training and my meeting with the union president. I'm not looking forward to the union meeting. I feel a lecture coming on. Just gonna grin and bear it and get down to business.

Hugs

Sue

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 8:24pm

Thanks, babe. We just got FIOS and we get LOGO, much to dh's chagrin. I think I could be on that program called "Coming Out Stories." Of course, after posting here for six months(yes it really has been that long), my story ain't that much different than a lot of folks, except it's happening to me.

Hug Back

Sue

Oh, yeah, whatever happened with the hair thing??????

BLUE DIA

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