Dating Scene

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Dating Scene
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:04am

So, I'm not really "dating". But I went out again last night with my friend to a "meet-up". I wasn't as nervous this time. It was here in town and I figured I could just leave if needed. It was at a gay bar downtown. Let me tell you about drunks! I mean, I had a couple of beers, and I'm okay with drinking, but there were some women who I just could not steer clear of enough!

So in walks the woman from last weekend who referred to me a "bisexual". I have a confession. Of all the women I've met, she and I hit it off the best. We kept gravitating towards one another and have lots to talk about. She was much nicer last night. Actually, she was nice last weekend except for that comment. She just left a relationship that was as long as my marriage.

Okay what's my point? I'm not sure I can do this. I like being around the women, I like some of the flirting and sparkling conversation. But dating? One lesbian friend of mine told me women don't date. What the heck do they do then? People-I'm lost here. Or is it just so new that I need more time? I tell you, I really lay in bed at night and wonder how I got here. What am I doing? I sometimes feel like I should pack up and return home for the comfort. But that's the easy thing. Kind of late for that too-considering I told the dh and can't really go back into the closet.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs,

Amy

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In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:47pm

You already know what I am made of and I know you.

FGP-TBS

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 05-20-2007
In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:50pm

Hey-I'm in charge of 4 kids right now (have a friend over) and should be acting more responsibly. You're making me feel naughty.

FGP-AL

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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:56pm

Good, you need to feel that way sometimes......Find Amy

Hey, high five on Mooddaizy.

FGP-TBS

BLUE DIA
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In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:02pm
Hi Passion,
Sheila and I dated for six months. We met at a bar and she got wayyyyyyy drunk and I thought omg! But it turned out to be a one time thing. Against my friends better judgements I went out with her again. We went out several more times and she did not drink very much or ever get drunk like that again. We went to concerts and cookouts etc and moved in together 6 months later. We have been living together for 10 years now and I am glad that I took that chance.
Now she does not even drink at all, her choice, just kinda slowly stopped. Maybe because I don't really drink at least rarely.
So, you never know when you meet someone in a bar if it is the way they are all the time or if it is just a bar night thing. And some are at the bar all the time because that is just what they do for fun.
But also remember, we do not have alot of options for places to go to meet people and be ourselves.
There are churches, softball fields and other sports for women, some coffee shops and book stores.
Try some of those places if the bar is not your thing.
Just check out other venues in your area and see how it goes.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Registered: 05-20-2007
In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:03pm

You mean Amy can be naughty? Thanks for reminding me and giving me permission

Yeah-good job teaming up on Moondaizy-was that a threesome?

FGP-AL

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:11pm
I always got a phone number if I met someone I liked or I gave mine out. I dated for a few years before I settled down with my ex. First I would take time to get to know the person that evening, like talking and dancing and flirting. Then I would ask at the end of the evening, 'Can I have your phone number, maybe we can meet here again or go out sometime."
It worked for me and no pick up lines were needed.
I really enjoyed dating. I like to flirt too. Dating can be fun. Don't stress over it. And if you tell people you are just dating right now they will not have to confuse you with a u-haul person.
Have fun!
Hugs,
Laurie
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In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:54pm

Thanks Laurie. I love to hear other people's stories. Your's is great. I'm glad to hear you dated for a while first. Sounds like a great relationship.

I don't try and judge everyone who's in a bar. Hey-I'm there too! But some women just came on way too strong and I thought it was disrespectful in many ways. But, I'll figure it out.

I do have some other avenues and ways to meet other women. Wish me luck!

Hugs,

Amy

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In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:57pm

heeeyyyyyyyyyyy!!! People from New Zealand don't have strange accents!! Sheesh!!

My daughter even asks "how come we don't have accents and everyone else does?" (Because they are all weird, child...they wear flip flops on their feet when *normal* people would wear JANDALS!!!!!)


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In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:08pm

OMG-so sorry if I offended. You know-I actually understood a lot of what she was saying, as I have a good friend who's Australian and the accents are similar-although I bet you'd disagree.

Jandals-well it sure sounded a lot like "genitals" to me. And the accent wasn't strange. I actually think it got her laid that night.

Amy

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In reply to: passiongrl
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:17pm
OMG! That cracked me up so hard I had to explain to my partner why I was laughing so hard I could not breathe.
I have tears in my eyes. Jandals/genitals, omg, lmao!Especially when someone is drinking and has an accent I could see how it could sound that way passion. Hahahahaha...
Hugs,
Laurie
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