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| Fri, 08-24-2007 - 2:03pm |
Hello everyone. I lurked here some time ago (probably 3 years ago) and now I'm back and thought I would post (after reading some of your hilarious posts!) For those who want to know my story I'll write it now. If not- RUN AWAY!! LOL So here goes.
I grew up a good Christian girl and married a soldier who put everything before his family. I was very timid and he was untrusting and liked to go out with drinking with his friends and the girls and came home only when he felt like it. He occassionally "let" me go with him just to keep me from "whining". Sex was his thing and usually the reason he came home (though I can't be certain he didn't get it somewhere else too). He used to bring home X-rated movies where there were lots of girl-on-girl scenes. He really liked those and would talk to me about maybe doing that. It looked good in the movies! LOL Anyway after 14 years and 5 sons I got tired and brave and moved out. However before I moved out I was online (here at iVillage as a matter of fact- different board though) and I met a wonderful lady. She was married too so I assumed she was straight. She invited me to go on a trip with her and 2 other girls from the board (walking board that has since closed). She was the cl there. Little did I know that trip would entirely change my life. Talking to her online she asked sexual questions and said some things. I was to go to her house the day before the trip and spend the night. She said her dh slept on the couch all the time so the best place to put me was.......in her bed!! It was a night like no other!! She wanted to keep seeing me after that but she was 300 miles from me. Since dh was in Iraq she visited me and the boys and our house and I'd go to her house. Her kids (who were nearly grown) and dh tolerated me. He was gone most of the time anyway and had misconcceptions of me because I was from a small town (small town meaning less than 800 people- my home town had less than 1400). When dh came home a year later the boys and I moved out. After another year she moved here. She's been here a year now and it has been wonderful. She struggles with my kids and wants to move back because of them which is ripping me apart but what can I do? I have a month to talk her into living in my house with me. The kids are gone half the time anyway. I guess we'll see what happens. We've been though a lot in the last 3 years.
So there ya go. My introduction of myself. Long and hopefully not too boring. In this small town there isn't much in the way of support or even community. You just don't admit that you are different in that way. But I work in a nursing home and one of the nurses has been with her female lover for 17 years so we talk about things. Anway I'd love to get to know you guys. You seem like a very fun bunch!

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Hello!!
We can't wait to get to know you too! I am glad you came out of lurkdom. 8-)
Let me start off by saying that for all parties involved, being in a relationship with 'step' kids so to speak (even heterosexual relationships) is HARD!
Hey, Red, welcome to the board.
Lots of great women here and one great guy. Lots of us "newbies and sorta newbies" and lots of experienced(I was going to type in "old," but thought better of it). Some folks get a little testy, if ya know what I mean. **wink**
Everybody just kind of moving down their path and we just join up here to share stories, get advice, listen mostly.
I have older children and just came out to my family two Friday's ago. Geez, I can't believe it was only 2 weeks ago. I'm sorry not all is going well with your gf and your children. My ds has told me in no uncertain that he never wants to meet any of my women friends. He threatens bodily harm. I think he will mellow as he ages and time passes. It must have been very difficult with the military thing, being away, his treatment of you. I hope that you can work things out.
Hugs
Blue
Babe, I SAID "more experienced." Oh, great co-leader, I bow to your unfathomable wisdom and experience. I am awed by your majesty and grace. You are infallible in all things lesbian. ^^Wait, wait, I need to find my boots. I am trying to pile it higher and deeper.^^
ROFLMAO!!!!!
Your Buddy, Blue
You know, even someone wasn't a lesbian, he or she would want to hang out here because we are so damn fun! I can't get away from my computer
Amy
You are right. I am sitting in my office, in the dark, 'cause I won't stand up and turn the light on. I can't stop laughing and I so need to walk away from this and get some sleep.
BTW, ds comes home from CO tomorrow. Hope he sees that things have improved here.
Thelma Sue
Your ds should see things have improved, however hopefully he will come home with a good attitude or he could inject negative crap in. But he shouldn't.
Sleep tight
Amy Louise
Hello there and nice to meet you.
I come from a smallish community myself- population 3000. I found it difficult to find support although I knew of 2 lesbian couples that lived there.
It was a great place to raise kids but not much outlook for them beyond school. I used to just chat online- my only interactions with other lesbians. Thank goodness for the message boards, huh?!
Then I moved to the city. It was difficult for me to adjust but the best thing I did for my kids and there is an active lesbian community here. We have a gay and lesbian gala, the GLBT film festival, 3 gay bars.. I met my partner online and she lived just a city over, so I chatted to her for a couple of months and then we met in person. Now she lives with us.
It's great being a member of an online community as well because you can pretty much bet that whatever part of the journey you are on, someone has been through it and understands where you are at.
A good way to help people get to know you is to fill out your profile ;-)
Your story was not boring. I enjoyed reading it. I hope all works out for you. Maybe the talk you need to have is with your kids. See what the deal is. Maybe they don't understand or they are hearing things from other people or something about your relationship. Maybe your partner is feeling guilty for leaving her family. There has to be a deep rooted problem going on that has not yet surfaced but is coming to a head with someone.
Hugs,
Laurie
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