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| Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:26pm |
I need some encouragement and a big push!
I posted a few days ago that I'm trying to get back out again. Well tonight I'd like to go to a lesbian bar that has live bands out on the patio every Friday night. The band usually starts around 9:00-9:30 and I have 2 hours to get there.
I'm very shy and don't do well in public gatherings alone, but I'm never going to meet people unless I do it.
How do I get up the nerve to drive there and walk into this place alone?
Acck! I hate being so shy and scared!

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and also....if I do finally get up the nerve to go, what do I do when I get there? I don't want to look like some lonely loser standing in the corner. How do I seem "cool" when I'm there alone? Help! lol
This is so hard....
First of all, I'll meet you there. Near where will I be driving to?
Second, listen to me, sister. Only you can take that first step. Get your keys and get ready to go. The WORST thing that can happen is that you feel uncomfortable, don't like it, and you get in the car and go home. That's the worst. You won't know anybody, so nobody will care, but you. NOTHING happens if you sit at home. Nothing. And I mean nothing. What have you got to lose here? Nothing. Hello, I'm talkin' to you. You don't have to talk to anybody, all night if you don't want to. Trust me......nothing to lose but about 10-20 bucks. You've got the dough, you've been waiting for this opportunity. Now, around 9:30 get your butt out the door. Are ya listenin'?
Have a plan. Sit at the bar so you can scope things out. Or stand with a drink in the next row back if there aren't any seats. This is gonna cost ya what?, maybe 5 bucks cover charge and the cost of a drink. You see somebody that catches your eye, send them a drink(okay, maybe not tonight lol).
That's the story and I'm stickin' to it. GO
Blue
Hey Moomdaizy. My predicament last week-but big difference I had people to go with. But there's so use resisting Blue-she's one tough soft-butch and you must obey.
Really, she's right. You'll always wonder "what-if" if you don't go. It will take a lot nerve-but think how great you'll feel if you go. Something great might happen. Or not-but just getting up the nerve to go is something great.
Good luck and let us know what happens
Hugs,
Amy
Oh Blue....I hear you sistah....I've told myself the very same things over and over again inside my head. I'm ready to go, all I have to do is pick up my keys and walk out the door. I'm just so scared and nervous that I want to kick myself in the rear! lol
You're right...what do I have to lose? The worst that can happen, like you said, is that I don't like it once I get there and come back home. But at least I did it right?
I wish I could meet you there, unfortunatly I'm in Texas. Would take me until Sunday to arrive where you are. hehehehehe
Thanks Blue!
When are you going? Y'all are in a different time zone there.
Blue
Thank you Amy. You girls are helping a lot! Almost have the nerve up here.
If I can't find a table to sit at (which would make me way more comfortable) how do I stand and look comfortable? Know what I mean? I'm terrified of looking like a lonely loser without even a place to sit! rofl! I know I sound crazy
Grab a beer-or whatever else you drink-and start dancing. Act like you're dancing with someone-then eye the dance floor and see who you can dance with instead of your adopted group. I tried that last week. It kind of worked.
Try the table thing though. Gosh-I wish it were easier.
Amy
No, you don't want to sit at a table. That will invite company, unless that's what you want. Make them come to you at the bar. Don't worry. It'll be fine.
Blue
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