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| Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:26pm |
I need some encouragement and a big push!
I posted a few days ago that I'm trying to get back out again. Well tonight I'd like to go to a lesbian bar that has live bands out on the patio every Friday night. The band usually starts around 9:00-9:30 and I have 2 hours to get there.
I'm very shy and don't do well in public gatherings alone, but I'm never going to meet people unless I do it.
How do I get up the nerve to drive there and walk into this place alone?
Acck! I hate being so shy and scared!

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Good Morning Ladies!
I'm so sorry I left you all on such a cliffhanger! hehehehe
It went...ok. I drove up and down the strip a few times "casing" the bar first. lol I found a place to park and literally sat in my car a good 20 minutes getting up the nerve. I finally got out of the car and walked in and found a spot at the back bar where I could sit and look through the back door to where the band was, but still see what was going on inside. It was a good safe spot for me. hehehe
I caught one very cute butch checking me out a few times while she was playing pool, but then a gaggle of her friends showed up and she didn't pay me any attention any more. I had two drinks and enjoyed some live music, but the place was starting to get really crowded and everyone seemed to know everyone and I started feeling like the lonely wall flower and left.
I went across the street to where a coffee shop is with outdoor sitting. I ordered a coffee and sat outside to people watch for a while. Then I came on home. I wish I could tell you something really great happened, but it didn't.
I am proud of myself for getting up the nerve to actually go through with it, but also a little sad that no one talked to me.
So there you have it. Thanks again to Blue and Amy for giving me the push I needed to go last night. Thanks to everyone else for the support and hanging in there for an update. =)
I read the thread, but didn't post last night. Kept you in mind, though, and was sending some energy your way, that you'd go, and you would be o.k. I came on this morning, like everybody else, hoping you'd have posted to tell us all how it went! ;)) I am glad it went o.k. To me you are so brave! I don't think I could have done it alone at all. You broke the ice for yourself. Maybe next time will be easier and you will meet some people, too? I hope so!
You go, woman! :D
ML
ML
Hey don't be sad, Congratulate yourself! That was a big step!
Good job, moondaizy! I'm just now reading this thread. You were brave and should be proud of yourself. Keep getting out there, and I'm sure you'll meet some new friends. I have no experience with the lesbian dating scene, so I can't offer any advice - just lots of support and hugs.
I just want you to know that I had that I had almost the same experience the first time I went to the club on my own. Not really great, but I got myself out there. There will be more opportunities as you make them for yourself. It's okay that nobody talked to you. I think you are amazing for going at all. Ya had me worried, sister.
Good work. Well done.
Blue
Way to go moondaisy!!!
I just caught your post as i was away all weekend. GOOD FOR YOU! Love that courage. Nest time you might walk up to someone and say hi and chitchat. You can pretend you are an actor ina movie and play the part of a confident, sexy , self-assured hottie. I do role playing...act as if...when I am scared to so something and i end up having fun!
Pleased to read your story.
I am glad you had the girls supporting you!
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Roxy
I don't think I could go through with it. But were I to do it, I'd throw back a shot or two to relax, and I'd sit at the bar. And I'd probably dance. I'd give it an hour and if nothing is happening, I'd be out of there. Good luck.
I found my partner here on this board (Ting & Caly came to our wedding last year). Another place to meet lesbians is your local Unitarian Church. If you live near a college, see if they have a Soulforce.
Kim
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Hey Moon. Taking me awhile to catch up here. You did it! It's so hard to walk into a new place, and alone! Someone was checking you out! That always feels good-so it was a good experience. I'm glad you did it.
Glad we could help. This board is just so damn awesome. I may sleep with my computer tonight!
Hugs,
Amy
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