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| Sat, 08-25-2007 - 2:44pm |
From the threads I have read since I've been here, it seems the majority of you came out later in life. I read once, in a lesbian research book, that woman do not have sexuality until their mid 20s-early 30s. The jest of the book was that from the moment we are born we are trained to be girls, wives, mothers, caretakers and to take care of the man's needs while not considering our own needs. It isn't until we mature and begin the discover who we really are inside (usually starting in the 20s)that we also begin to realize we are sexual beings as well. Thus never really have formed a gender preference we are attracted to, rather, going with what we have always known and were taught.
Here is my question.
If dating was removed as an option, say until age 21 do you feel at that age your attraction towards women would have been more prominent? Meaning if all the pressure of having to have boyfriend/future husband was removed up until age 21, do you think you would have discovered your lesbian sexuality sooner?
To answer my own question.....YES! I would have definitely figured it out before making the mistakes I did. I completely dismissed my attractions towards women because it was never the "normal" way of being. Is wasn't until I was mature enough to realize I have feelings for another woman and it IS all right to feel that way. I can live my life and be true to myself and it isn't anyone else's business unless it is harmful to others.

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I hope it's the only one in a long happy life as a FGP
Shannon
If those freaking people only knew what an amazing woman you were-but you know-crap-I don't know what to say. So sorry Sue-I hate that you were made to feel that way.
Big hugs,
Amy
Not for me moondaisy...it took me a while...at 21 I was in shell shock still. I was (in retrospect) so shut down on sexuality...probably due to CSA (child sexual abuse). It was just going to take time for me.
If i had known it...at that age, i probably would have attracted an unhealthy controlling abusive woman...i just had so much healing to do...
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Roxy
YIKES! How awful for you both! What lowlife neanderthals some people can be! Holy crap! Why can't they just mind their own damn business???!!!
I hope it never happens again, too!
Hugs,
ML
ML
(((((((Sue))))))))
So sorry you had to go through that. We have seen some protestors at the Gay Pride festivals here and in Atlanta, usually carrying "religious" signs. It's really scary that some people have the ability to hate so much. I have a theory, though, that really on the inside they are a wee bit jealous. How could they not be seeing how happy and comfortable we are?? ;-)
Big hugs
Well, you know they were just going about God's business. **sneer here** I'll live. Thanks though.
Blue
Innocence
Yep, it's so different. I'm never going back.
My last friend to tell asked me 4 times in the course of our conversation, "but you still like men, right?" I finally had to say, "YES, Jill, I like men. They're great to hang with, watch a ball game, drink with, whack each other in the arm in that idiotic male bonding ritual, but I AM NOT SLEEPING WITH THEM ANYMORE!" lol
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Blue
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