Thursday Thoughts....Conflicting Libidos
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Thursday Thoughts....Conflicting Libidos
| Thu, 09-06-2007 - 7:15am |

Wouldn't it be wonderful it we always felt the same way about everything as our Partner?
| Thu, 09-06-2007 - 7:15am |

Wouldn't it be wonderful it we always felt the same way about everything as our Partner?
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I will keep this as tastful (please, lol, forgive the pun)as I possibly can. Considering that I'm not having any major operations anytime soon, my potential partner and I won't have any serious issues about what goes where.
Of course, I will have a bucket of water and maybe a fire hydrant, because things in my bedroom will be fiery hot. roflol!!!! My potential partner has to want to have sex every night, I'm very spoiled and not to mention greedy, lol! It's been five long years since I've had sex, but I do indulge in self-pleasuring.
When I say every night, I will have a lot of understanding, when she's having her monthly visitor, or if she's not in the mood (that's when I take care of myself), or she's tired from work. But when it's ON it's ON!! When it does happen, it will be when the both of us have nothing going on the next day and we can sleep in and regain our energy level.
Of course, I would have to get up and feed the cat and do other things, before I go under the covers again, but my goodness, lol!
Thanks,
Sebastian
Edited 9/6/2007 4:03 pm ET by igentleheart
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
I'm sorry you're going through this. Sounds like your gf is having a lot of issues that she needs to work through. Couples counseling might help. That's what comes to mind more than anything else. Sounds like
Fortunately, this has not been an issue for us. Caly and I agree that making love is more than the sexual act. When we cuddle, touch, kiss, whatever (essentially getting to 3rd base! lol), that's just as special and meaningful. It's all about connecting emotionally as well as physically. We tend to require about the same amount of rest and are tired at the same time in the evening. So, if we're tired and haven't been able to get to bed before 10:30, it's likely that nothing's gonna happen except cuddling!
I think physical/emotional intimacy is a necessary part of any relationship. Sometimes hormones get in the way of it happening, but, overall, communicating about it and agreeing that it is something to make time for is very important. Trying new things and letting go of inhibitions keeps the sparks flying too! ;-)
Ohhhh...I guess I promised to answer this one, and so I will.
Lisa and I don't always have libidos that are in beautiful harmony.
Red,
As strongly as you feel for this woman, I honestly don't think its a good thing for you to give up soo much of what is important to you either and Sex is a VERY important part of a good relationship!
Well Seb,
Storm,
I so understand where you are coming from and I think this happens a lot in LDR that eventually come together.
It sucks that my whining was the start of this discussion........lol
Obviously we have clashing libidos because I have one and she doesn't. But, it's deeper than that. I still want that connection with her, and she doesn't want it with me. I guess I should clarify, I've decided I no longer want that with her. It's too painful...........no more! So I guess now our libido's are the same! It's funny, the last time you have sex with someone you would never guess it was the last time. Our last time was our anniversary in June. I don't forsee us having sex again.
Also, I think she has used sex to control and manipulate me. It's always got to be her show, her way......because "she's the butch!"
Next time I will be smarter..........
Shannon
Shannon,
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